Newsgroups: alt.sex.wizards
Subject: a guide to cunnelingus
Date: 10 Nov 1994 12:01:37 -0500
Since I voiced my woes about never seeing a "how-to" text for cunnelingus
on the net, I was sent this guide from a wonderful gentleman on the net.
I think the woman who wrote this did a good job, so I am passing it on
to you all, since undoubtedly, you all know people who could use the info!
Happy licking! (uh, yah. whatever! ;) )
Unlike the extraordinary gentleman who wrote the article on cock-
sucking, I am not an expert. I am simply a woman who knows what she
likes, and has had all too many experiences with men who didn't seem to
have the vaguest idea what they were doing between her legs.
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Eating a woman's pussy is about the most wonderful thing you can do for
her. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and of course it makes her
cum like crazy. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for most, it is
the easiest way to cum with a man. You may have the littlest dick on the
planet, but if you give great head, you will be appreciated as a
fabulous lover. Yes, it's that important. Besides, lots of women expect
it these days - you might as well know what your doing.
First off, guys seem to have a strange love/hate relationship with
women's genitalia. Guys that can't wait to get their dick into one are
often reluctant to put their face "down there". For every guy who says
he loves to eat pussy, there's another one who's squeamish. Women know
this, and it affects their ability to lay back and enjoy the experience.
There is nothing more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner
finds her delicious. Don't be coy; tell her. When a guy fingers a lady
and then smells, licks, sucks the juice off his finger and sighs as if
in heaven, she _knows_ this is her lucky day.
What if your sweet lady doesn't smell or taste very sweet? Don't suffer.
(Don't complain, either.) Take a nice hot shower or bath together.
Lather up both of your bodies and slide them together. It's like a whole
body fuck. Soap up her vulva, washing between her outer and inner lips.
Spread her lips apart and gently wash her clitoris. Hey, don't stop -
this feels great! Run your soapy hand down the crack of her ass, and rub
a finger all around her anus. You can stick one finger in and wash
around inside too, if you anticipate any anal play, and I suggest you
do. But don't put those soapy fingers up her vagina. Instead, rinse them
off well and stick one or two inside, making a circular motion. Think
about washing the inside of a tall glass - same thing. Now wasn't that
fun? And now you can feel free to let your tongue wander anywhere it
pleases...
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So now what? You've found a comfy spot to play, you've been kissing
passionately, your tongues darting around each other's mouths like
playful otters. You've moved down to nibble one of her hardening nipples
and she's starting to groan, grinding her pelvis against your stomach.
STOP. I know it was just starting to get good. But was she really
groaning and humping you, or was it your own excitement you were
detecting? I strongly prefer to be excited _before_ a guy starts
plunging his tongue into my inner recesses. Use your judgement, and
kiss, lick, and fondle your way down her stomach, up her thighs, until
she's arching up her back trying to get you to eat her. Of course, if
she really _was_ groaning and grinding, go for it...I also don't
particularly enjoy a guy endlessly nibbling my inner thigh while my clit
is quivering in anticipation.
POSITIONS
If the woman you are with is somewhat hesitant about your going down on
her, start off with her lying on her back, perhaps half- sitting. Lay
down between her legs, with her legs over your shoulders. She may enjoy
laying or sitting at the edge of the bed with you kneeling. She can also
straddle your face, but be prepared to get _very_ wet. There are endless
varieties of positions where you can press your face up to her cunt,
some of which strike me as more acrobatic than erotic, but feel free to
experiment. And then there's 69...
69 is one of my favorite positions. On the plus side, you both get to
enjoy the sublime sensations of getting head, simultaneously. The upside
down positioning of a woman's pussy and your mouth is an easy fit and
there's more room for your hands. On the negative side, it's a less than
ideal position for a woman to give head. Plus, if you need to read this
article, you may be better off concentrating your energies on pleasing
her, without too much distraction. But even for experienced 69'ers, it's
easy to short-change your partner. "It feels soooo good, I'm just gonna
stop for a second and concentrate on what you're...aaaarrrgghhh". Get
the picture? Some show of will-power is in order.
69 can be done male on top, female on top, or side by side. The latter
two are easier, though it's more restful with both partners laying down.
Some women love being licked on all fours, so if female-on-top 69 drives
her wild, take the hint and find some other ways to eat her in this
position. I happen to enjoy male on top, but for many women this is a
sure choking position. If a woman can, or wants to try, to deep-throat
you, this is THE position. When her head is thrust back you can really
slide your cock all the way down her throat. But don't forget what
_you're_ supposed to be doing!
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So there you are staring at it - the mysterious hole from whence you
came, and into which you hope to cum again... First, an anatomy
lesson...
THE CLITORIS
Before I go any further, a few words about the clitoris, accent on the
first syllable. Most of you know it, but for those who don't, it is THE
woman's sex organ, period. It may feel great to be fucked vaginally,
anally or otherwise, but if the stimulation is not right there, on the
clitoris, you're ignoring the place that's going to make her cum, and
presumably that's why you're reading this, right? It's right there at
the top juncture of her inner lips, a small knob of pink flesh. This is
where it's at boys, and don't forget it. Almost any licking and sucking
of the labia or vaginal entrance is going to feel just dandy; just
remember that this is pleasurable _teasing_, not the main event. I
can't tell you how many guys have thrust their tongues up my vagina
thinking that this was going to make me cum. They were wrong. Of course,
with a little manual stimulation....but I'm getting ahead of myself.
Women feel differently about how much direct stimulation they can take
on their clitoris. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on their
exposed clits, others will shriek in pain. You may encounter a woman
who is completely unable to take direct stimulation of her clit; the
goal is still the same, but you'll have to stimulate it indirectly,
such as through her labia. IMPORTANT NOTE: Often, what is unacceptably
rough at first may be fine after she's very excited. The fact is, most
women really need a good bit of stimulation before a targeted attack
on their clitoris, but once they're there, that's where you want to
devote your attention.
The key here is go slow, ask questions, and if she's comfortable with
it, leave the lights on and really explore. Body language often does
tell what feels best, but I promise, she will appreciate your
attentiveness if you ask outright. If she seems shy, get her to guide
your hands and mouth with her own hand, and pay attention. If she starts
bucking up against your mouth and gasping in ragged little breaths, for
God's sake, don't use this opportunity to try something different. Just
keep doing exactly what you're doing.
THE TONGUE
I want to reiterate, there is almost nothing you can do that won't feel
terrific, so relax! I promise, you may be confused and uncertain, but
she's in heaven. Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance,
clitoris, or anal area is going to feel just great, and I'd no sooner
tell guys to "do it exactly like this" than I would tell every chef to
follow the same recipe. But for those who are compelled to RTFM, here
are a few techniques that you might like to try:
Try lapping her pussy from vaginal entrance up to her clit, leaving your
tongue soft and jaw relaxed. This is a good way to start your tonguing.
Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one side, while
holding the two together with your lips. Good job, now do the other
side.
Fuck her pussy with your tongue - in and out, around and around, etc.
This feels nice. Not wonderful or incredible or earth-shaking; nice.
Spread her outer lips with your hand. Then, with your tongue pointed and
stiff, gently flick here and there. Feel free to roam, but keep coming
back to her clit. This drives some women wild, and others can't take it.
Some may prefer that you always leave your tongue soft, so when you try
this, pay attention to whether those moans are ecstacy or pain.
The following techniques should not be introduced until your partner is
really hot (i.e. she's no longer coherent). These are very intense
actions which may be "too much" for some women, even when nearing
orgasm.
With her clit still exposed, give it a quick little suck - pulling it
into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a lot like licking a
bit of cake batter off of your pinky. This feels incredible, and is a
fine thing to do if you feel like torturing her (see PUTTING IT ALL
TOGETHER below).
Take her exposed clit into your mouth and gently (at first, anyway)
suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around
it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined
with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm.
Another choice technique involves rolling your tongue into a tube. If
you can't do this with your tongue, you can't learn it - it's genetic.
For those who can, this works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll
your tongue into a tube _around_ the shaft of her clitoris. Slide it up
and down; in effect, your tongue makes a tiny pussy for her clit to
fuck. This also is likely to bring her over the edge.
FINGERS
Fingers are a valuable adjunct to eating pussy. Most women masturbate by
pressing a finger or fingers over their clit, possibly "thru" the skin
of their inner or outer lips, and vigorously rubbing in a circular or
back-and-forth direction. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to
ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done. You will
never be a good lover until you can bring your woman to climax with your
hands. When you fuck her from behind, or up her ass, or really in any
position which doesn't allow her to simultaneously rub her vulva against
your body, reach down or around and rub her clit. I know it's
distracting, but just do it anyway. One important point to note: make
sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more
uncomfortable (and sometimes downright painful) than a dry finger
roughly rubbed across one's clitoris.
Of course, that's not all you can do with your fingers. One technique
which is very exciting is to spread her lips wide apart with one hand,
and with your index finger straight like a pencil, flick the side of it
rapidly across her clit. This motion alone will often bring a woman to
orgasm. Combining this with the addition of some tongue action
elsewhere is nothing short of bliss.
Sticking one or more fingers inside her vagina is also wonderful. You
can simply move them in and out (this feels best with at least two or
three fingers, pushed in hard), or wriggling them around. A particularly
intense motion is to face your hand so that you have two fingers inside
her with your palm facing the front of her body. Now move your fingers
rapidly, as if waving hello. You are aiming to stimulate a particular
part of the woman's vagina - namely the lower anterior (front) part.
When combined with sucking her clit, this is nearly certain to bring her
to a fast and intense climax.
An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one (and later
two) fingers inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons area. I'm
talking about that fleshy "mound" over her pubic bone. Your finger goes
in and out and the ball of your hand is pressed hard against her vulva.
You may want to rub or even shake the entire area with your palm.
Fingers also do nice things to tight little butt holes, but that's a
whole other story...
ANAL PLAY
This stuff is purely optional. If anal play doesn't turn you on, don't
do it. If you're uncomfortable, she'll pick up on your feelings and
start wondering if it's her pussy that's turning you off. Don't feel
that you can't be a good lover without anal play; you can.
Cleanliness is of the essence. (remember that nice soapy shower?) Scoop
out some luscious juices (from a very wet pussy) with your finger and
rub it around her anus. (If she isn't well lubricated, saliva works
too.) If that's all you or she feels comfortable with, fine - it still
feels great. But I think most women enjoy the feel of a finger pushed up
their ass while they're being fucked or eaten. You need to be gentle,
possibly even leaving your finger still. Try moving it in and out a
little, or around in a circle. If she starts moaning, you know you're
doing something right.
It's really fun to feel a woman's anus rhythmically squeezing your
finger as she cums. (And it's great for her, too) You're probably
thinking about what that would feel like around your dick, and it's
something you should certainly explore. Ass-fucking is somewhat out of
the scope of this article, but suffice to say, if she doesn't like a
finger up her butt, she sure as hell won't want your big dick up
there. Even if she does enjoy this sort of play, she may still be
somewhat apprehensive about putting something so large up there. The
keys to success are sufficient (i.e. copious amounts of) lubrication
(a water-soluble type such as K-Y, which is safe for condoms),
relaxation on her part, and a slow, _gentle_, approach. She'll
certainly tell you if she wants you to thrust harder or deeper. And
remember, if you want to feel that delicious squeezing around your
cock, reach around and diddle that clit!
As for anallingus - why not? Don't feel like you HAVE to do it to
satisfy your woman. But if the idea turns you on, great. Let your tongue
rove as it pleases. It's not necessary to actually put your tongue
inside her butt to stimulate the area. Back and forth, around and
around, you get the picture.
One hygiene note: once that finger (or your penis) has been inside her
ass, don't even think about putting it anywhere else. Carelessness in
this regard can cause a horrendous infection.
MENSTRUATION
I haven't met a lot of men who are completely comfortable going down on
a woman when she has her period. But some are. Most women are at their
horniest before and sometimes during their period. You should definitely
find a way to make her cum when she's bleeding, be it thru intercourse,
manual, or oral stimulation. If you feel comfortable going down on her,
great. It's perfectly safe. You may suggest that she insert a tampon,
and then wash up. (As you now know, you don't need to get anywhere near
her vagina to make her cum.) Or you could lay down a few old towels,
turn out the lights, and forget about it.
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
I think variety is crucial. Some guy posted an article detailing a
road map of kissing and licking (first here, then here, etc.) Much
better to do the unexpected; sometimes a hungry, aggressive approach,
other times a laid-back, leisurely one. You can even even include your
nose, or your chin into the act. Start slow, that's the key, and let
your lover guide the speed of the crescendo. In all cases, start
gently. Roughness and clumsiness are big turn-offs. As she gets more
and more excited, pay more attention to her clitoris. When she's three
breathes away from cumming, moving your mouth off or away from her
clit is agony. That's fine if you're intentionally torturing her, just
understand that this is what you are doing. The only prohibition is to
be reasonably gentle with her clit. Nibbling or biting is fine
elsewhere, but we're talking about a _sensitive_ spot.
Speaking of prolonging the agony... I think this is great fun. Bring
your partner just to the edge of orgasm, and _stop_. This is not easy
unless you really know your lover well. Instead, just have her help you.
Say, "Grab my head and stop me just before you think you're gonna cum."
Then take your sweet time. Blow on her clit, take it into your mouth
just briefly, flick it just the very slightest bit. You will have this
woman squirming and moaning like she's dying. Finger her deeply, enjoy
the ecstasy you are imparting, and finally, have pity. Let the poor
woman cum.
UUUUNNNNGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!! (or, I'M COMING!!!)
Okay, she's practically suffocating you, she's pressed so hard against
your face; she's screaming and bucking up in the air; you feel her pussy
contracting wildly - how long should you keep it up?? The simple answer
is, until she makes you stop. Some women may stop you after five seconds
from the start of their climax, others may be able to roll right into
another orgasm if you keep going. Do come up for air, but remember, her
excitement does not drop off as sharply as yours does. Play it safe by
continuing the stimulation.
How many times does she need to cum? Some women are very content to have
one orgasm. A whole lot of women would really like to cum again, but
need about five minutes to recoup. Many women are so sensitive right
after they cum that they may push your head violently away. This doesn't
necessarily mean they've had enough, only that you need to stop for a
few minutes. In fact most women, given a short rest between, are capable
of cumming again and again. A smaller percentage of women are able to
cum repeatedly with continued stimulation. This is the much-touted
multiple-orgasm that is experienced by a minority of women. I know this
makes it difficult to know when enough is enough, but there's a simple
answer: ask her.
GODI'MSOEXCITEDITFEELSGREATBUTIJUSTCAN'TCOME
It happens to all of us sometimes - distraction, embarrassment, anxiety,
or just an inability to "let go". What do you do about it? The first
question is, can she easily bring herself to a climax in the privacy of
her own home. If the answer is no - then she needs to do some homework.
There are two books on the subject that I know of: "For Yourself: The
Fulfillment of Female Sexuality" by Lonnie Barbach, and "Sex for One:
The Joy of Selfloving" by Betty Dodson; pick up one. Then tell her to
read it, study it, and practice, practice, practice!
Now if your partner is orgasmic only when alone - ask her point blank:
"Is there something different I can do?" Many women are shy about
criticizing their lovers, but if asked outright will surprise you with a
very specific answer. It may be a simple matter of mechanics, like a
little to right please, or not so rough, or more pressure and faster.
Ah... perfect.
But suppose everything is wonderful. She says you're doing everything
right but she just can't cum. There are two probable causes: self-
consciousness and/or self-loathing. For women who can't help watching
themselves, the best approach is to eliminate anything that focuses her
attention on what the two of you are doing. This is a "be here now" kind
of thing - definitely not an introspective activity. Get that mirror off
the ceiling. Dim the lights or turn them off completely. Put on some
soft music. Share a glass of port. (I said A glass - getting drunk will
definitely not help). Have her lay on her back, or propped up
comfortably with some pillows. This is not the time for her to sit on
your face, or the edge of the bed, or standing up against a wall.
Arrange a time when you can devote a long period to eating her pussy,
and then just keep it up. Forget everything I said about asking her
questions - just close your eyes and get into it. I know this can be a
difficult and exhausting exercise, but she will be extravagantly
thankful for your efforts. It gets easier each time. If all else fails,
get accustomed to masturbating together. Gradually begin to add your
stimulation to her own, right before she's about to cum anyway. Over
time, you can take over completely.
For women who themselves feel that their cunts are dirty or distasteful,
all of the above methods may be helpful, but the underlying issue must
also be addressed. I am amazed at how many women are ambivalent about
their own genitals. They don't love "that part" of their body, and they
can't believe that you would either. Yes, it is important to be clean.
But clean means a daily shower which includes washing the vulva. It
doesn't mean vainly attempting to remove every trace of smell or taste.
The natural fragrance and secretions of a healthy woman are beautiful
and erotic. Hopefully you agree (and if not, try hard to cultivate this
attitude). When she learns to love her pussy, she will be infinitely
more comfortable with your loving it too.
From: morpheus@m11-113-14.mit.edu (Robert E Gruhl)
Newsgroups: alt.sex.wizards,alt.sex
Subject: Cunnilingus 101: A How To
Date: 28 Apr 1995 10:10:40 GMT
Organization: Massachusetts Institute of Technology
A quick note:
I wrote the first version of this article in early 1994 in response to a
request on alt.sex.wizards. Although I originally meant it to be short,
when I stopped to proof-read, I found that I had written 4 pages. I
have since received about 120 enthusiastic (and 3 non-enthusiastic)
responses about the article, therefore I have slightly modified (spell
checked and everything) it and I'm posting it again on alt.sex.wizards
and alt.sex. for the benefit of those who missed it the first time,
freshmen, and all the hoards of commercial net users. Hope you enjoy!
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ORAL SEX TECHNIQUES - FEMALE (Version 2.0)
TASTE:
In my experience, one of the main reasons that partners avoid
cunnilingus is due to a perceived or even experienced poor taste. While
it is true that women run the range from pleasant (tasty!) to sour or
uric tasting, there are easy steps to ensure that your partner will be
tasting her sweetest.
First and most obviously, a good vigorous shower will do much to
neutralize the taste of your partner. In fact, oral sex in the shower,
while not a favorite method of mine, has a completely neutral taste if
you stick to the upper regions of your partner's sex. If your partner
has not showered recently, or has physically exerted herself recently,
her taste will be much stronger. This, however, can be a good thing!
Secondly, foreplay will improve upon both the taste and the
experience in general if your can get her juices flowing. I have never
found an extremely aroused, wet woman to taste unpleasant. Quite the
contrary!
Finally, there's the use of flavorings. There are many flavored
oils and body lotions available through "marital aid" catalogs as well
as from local novelty shops or condom shops. Also recommended to me:
popsicles, jello powder, honey, and whipped cream. (A particular
favorite flavoring of mine is Karma Sutra Honey Dust.)
FOREPLAY:
Do it! Take your time! Have fun! Experiment! A common male
misunderstanding is that all females are aroused mostly through physical
contact. Not true. Women can be aroused greatly simply because they
find their partner sexy. Tension is a wonderful tool, use it. If you
can build tension to the point where the barest touch sends electric
shivers through both of you, you can't lose! Similarly, even the best
love techniques will not turn on a woman who isn't in the mood. (If you
can get her in the mood, well then you're talking.)
Joe Slobodnik's article (13590) on methods of arousal was a bit
technical, but he hit on some very important points. Take your time,
explore your partner (there's a lot more there than nipples and a
clitoris!), build tension, have fun.
POSITIONS:
There are two basic positions that I have found very versatile
and successful. For a very comfortable session, have her lie on her
back with legs spread and knees bent slightly. Lie on your stomach
between her legs, put your right arm under her left leg and your left
arm under her right - somewhat of an intimate hug. Now you should find
your head situated conveniently and comfortably near the center of your
attention.
Less comfortable, but a bit wilder is the following. Lie on
your back, prop a couple of pillows (or fold one over) under your head.
Have your partner kneel facing you with one knee on each side of your
head, above your shoulders. The sexy part of this position (IMHO) is
that your partner can look down at you and watch you eating her
out. (Yum) Versatility and comfort are reduced for the giver, so I only
occasionally partake in this position.
These are by no means the only positions. Again, experiment,
have fun. If you can find a bed where your partner can lie down with
her legs dangling off the bed and resting flat on the floor, you're in
luck. Now you can have her sit just at the edge of the bed, lie back,
and give you plenty of access while you kneel/sit in front of her sex.
Also recommended to me are siting besides your partner and kissing her
in this manner. While I've found that this changes the angle of
approach (adding variation) and allows more digital stimulation (that's
fingers, Holmes), it limits oral attention to the upper and clitoral
area of your partner's sex.
An additional recommendation follows: Have her lie with her head
dangling off the edge of the bed. The additional rush of blood to the
head will give a different (more intense?) feeling during orgasm.
Warning, unconsciousness is a possibility! (Opinions vary on whether
this improves orgasm.)
GEOGRAPHY:
Different woman are very different in some respects of their
genitalia, but the major parts are the same. A woman's sex from the
oral sex point of view consists of two sets of lips (outer and inner)
with endpoints just below the vaginal opening and some variable distance
above the clitoris; the vaginal opening (at the lower end of her
anatomy, just above where the two sets of lips meet), a smooth section
of skin between the vaginal opening and the clitoris, and the clitoris
and its surrounding folds.
If you get the chance, explore your partner in a location with
decent lighting. Use one hand to spread her sex, then explore her.
Find out what's where and what's what. Like I said earlier, women are
different. Especially the location and shape of the clitoris. It can
be buried, protruding, surrounded by many folds of flesh, or hanging out
it the open. The best method I have found for finding your partner's
clitoris (If all else fails, ask!), is to wet a finger and place it just
over her vaginal opening, inside of her inner lips. Now run your finger
up until you feel a slight bump. Now gently circle with your finger, if
she gasps, that's it, if not move farther up and repeat as necessary.
OK, ENOUGH OF THE DETAILS, NOW THE NITTY-GRITTY (tm)
So your partner is showered, excited and feeling sexy. It's the
big moment, what to do? Don't simply dive in. Take your time, excite
her.
*****
From "The Meaning of Life" by Monty Python:
Headmaster: Name two ways of getting them flowing, Watson.
Watson: Rubbing the clitoris, sir.
Headmaster: What's wrong with a kiss, boy? Hm? Why not start her
off with a nice kiss? You don't have to go leaping straight
for the clitoris like a bull at a gate. Give her a kiss, boy.
Wymer: Suck the nipple, sir.
Headmaster: Good. Good. Good, well done, Wymer.
Duckworth: Stroking the thighs, sir.
Headmaster: Yes, I suppose so.
Another: Bite the neck.
Headmaster: Good. Nibbling the ear. Kneading the buttocks, and so
on and so forth. So we have all these possibilities before we
stampede towards the clitoris, Watson.
Watson: Yes sir. Sorry sir.
*****
In my opinion, I can usually tell how good my partner is at oral sex by
how she "goes down" on me. By "going down" I mean the process by which
she goes from kissing my lips to sucking oh-so-wonderfully on my sex.
What's the belly button for?
Putting your gum in on the way down!
Depending on your partner, different methods of going down will work
more effectively. If you've gotten to this point with your partner, you
should have a fair idea of what she likes. Take advantage of that
knowledge. One thing that I highly recommend however, is a sexy look.
Sexy looks can make all the difference, and the best place to throw one
in is as you're licking, sucking and kissing your way down her stomach.
Take time to stop, look up and smile devilishly. Letting her know that
you really want to do this and aren't just doing it because you're
hoping for reciprocation is a great turn-on.
Unbutton your partners jeans, pull the tabs back and kiss her
newly exposed flesh. Unzip her pants, pull the tabs back as far as they
can go and place light, tender kisses on her abdomen and around the top
of her panties. Watch it, some women are very ticklish here!
(Note the above doesn't work so well if she doesn't have jeans
on but you're all smart enough to figure it out...) Once you've removed
everything but her panties, stop. You have a unique opportunity for
further arousal. Kiss her legs and inner thighs with gentle kisses.
Work your way up each leg and make a point of stopping at the line of
her underwear. Kiss again along the top of her underwear, and along the
other two borders.
Now move to her cotton (silk? lace? latex?) covered sex. Plant
firm, dry kisses through her underwear on her sex, low and right around
the vaginal entrance works best for me. If your partner is really
excited, often her underwear will be damp and will smell (pleasantly) of
her sex.
Removing the underwear is again a matter of choice. You know
your partner best, I prefer either gently sliding it all the way off
with my fingers, or pulling it part way down with my teeth first.
DIRECT KISSING:
It is not unusual for your partner's lips to be closed together.
A very excited woman's lips may be slightly spread already ("pouting").
Again, building tension can be accomplished by light kisses on either
side of her sex as well as light blowing. (Do not inflate your partner!
This can be very dangerous!! - You can rupture internal organs this
way.) Spreading her lips can be accomplished by placing your tongue
first at the base of her sex, and then firmly running your tongue all
the way up. Continue with a few long licks from the base of her sex all
the way to the top past her clitoris. Vary the firmness of your tongue
from hard and pointed to broad and soft.
THE BIG "O":
The best and most proven method of making your partner cum
through oral sex is by repeated, rhythmic stroking of her clitoris with
your tongue. The tongue is uniquely suited for this purpose because of
it's texture, versatility, and pliability. It is difficult (and tiring)
to apply too much pressure to your partner's clitoris with your tongue.
Some women are much more sensitive than others however. Be receptive to
any sharp gasps, you could be being too forceful. If this is the case,
move away from direct contact of the clitoris or adopt a gentler
technique.
Repeated, rhythmic stroking can be accomplished in a variety of
ways. I prefer either rapid, repeated vertical licks with a firm,
pointed tongue, or planting your tongue firmly and stiffly against your
partner's clitoris and vigorously shaking your head back and forth.
(Tiring, maybe. But it's worth it!) If you are having trouble finding
the correct angle or method for rhythmically lingually caressing her
clitoris, or if you want to try something fun and new:
Tongue the ABC's. No seriously! This is a great oral exercise
on any part of the body. Tongue the ABC's starting with lower case, and
moving though upper case. (Heck, you could do the whole ANSI ASCII set
if you'd like!) Be especially perceptive while you do this, vary your
speed and watch for sharp intakes of breath - chances are you've hit the
right angle. The ABC's give a large variety of different strokes, so
come back to this exercise as often as you'd like.
A general rule of thumb (tongue?) is to start slowly and pick up
the pace as you go along. This is definitely a general rule though,
feel free to break it by varying your rhythm, both slowly and
predictably as well as quickly and startlingly.
OTHER FUN THINGS TO DO:
Lick between the inner and outer lips; penetrate the vagina
deeply (a much stronger, iron-like taste here); "tease" the entrance to
her vagina with rapid pokes of your tongue at varying depths; don't
forget your hands, often a woman will feel a need or ache for something
inside of her while very aroused, oblige her with a finger or two. Both
kissing and manually manipulating your partner is tough, anyone with
successful methods is welcome to pipe in.
Talk to your partner, ask her what she likes. Experiment (if
you can) with many different partners. What excites one woman a lot may
not excite another as much, but may still be well worth trying. On the
other hand, you may not notice a subtle pleasurable technique on one
woman that can be easily learned on another. The better you know your
partner, the more effectively you can please her. Have fun!
A FINAL NOTE:
I tried to be a lot less pretentious than the male version of
this article for a few reasons. The major one is that women are very
different, the above suggestions may work wonderfully with one woman and
so-so with another. Some women simply aren't responsive to oral sex due
to strong moral constraints. Also, I am not an expert. Though I love
oral sex and have had the joy of pleasuring many women, I am still young
and have a lot to learn. (I hope!)
So feel free to comment on what you've read (men and women) and
reply to me at:
morpheus@mit.edu
Hope you found this helpfull and enjoy!
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