On my evolving views on gender and feminism
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July 17, 2024

An old acquaintance of mine appeared surprised when I told her that
I am studying at a Bible college, working toward a diploma in
divinity and ministry. She knew me from the feminist organizing and
a "Goddess" circle, as someone who was heavily invested in feminine
spirituality.

I was what some may call a cultural feminist, and most of my
friends shared the same interests.

I used to deride Christian women, questioning how they could
worship a patriarchal deity (and I questioned how Blacks could
worship the God of the white oppressors, too).

My "red pill" moments came sometime around the end of 2018.

My line of thoughts is preserved on my old Medium blog:

=>
https://medium.com/@thewillowness/count-me-out-of-your-sisterhood-on-feminism-and-female-lifestyle-empowerment-subculture-d130a53b4542
Count me out of your sisterhood

Then I also discovered that "radical feminists" were working with,
and accepting money from, the far-right "Christian" nationalists in
their united-front struggle against the trans community, which was
the last straw for me.

=>
https://medium.com/@thewillowness/final-words-on-anti-trans-rhetoric-by-so-called-feminists-c8f11f40748
Final words on anti-trans rhetoric by so-called feminists

The more I gave serious thought to feminism, the more I realized
that feminism was just another identitarian movement based on
grievance, resentment, and hatred. While many self-identified
feminists advocate egalitarianism, many others are simply "female
supremacists" who prefer to denigrate and exclude men as a
category.

Both males and females suffer from the tyranny of gender, albeit in
somewhat different ways. While feminists emphasize how oppressed
women are, it is also true that:

- Men are more likely to receive harsher sentences than women for
identical crimes.
- Men almost always receive disadvantageous judgments in divorce
and child custody cases.
- Men are more likely to die on their jobs due to the dangerous
work they do than women, whose jobs on average are not as
hazardous.
- Except in Israel and North Korea, men are conscripted into the
military but women are not.
- Men are more likely to be chronically unhoused than women.
- Men are far more likely to be murdered by cops or prison guards.
- Men are more likely to commit suicide than women.
- Gay men are far more likely to be on the receiving end of hate
crimes than lesbians.
- If a random woman takes a walk in a park and says hi to someone's
child, no one raises an eyebrow; if a man does the same, he is
automatically a suspected pedophile.
- While men may be paid more wages for identical jobs than females,
they are more likely to be saddled with child support and/or
alimony.
- In case of a plane crash or a shipwreck, it is always women and
children who are rescued first, while men are left to their own
devices to fend for themselves or die.

=> https://youtu.be/Q7MkSpJk5tM For more discussion on this, watch
the movie "The Red Pill" (2016, dir. Cassie Jaye) here

If feminists are okay with any of these, then they are not the
egalitarians they purport to be.

And I have seen enough feminists whose words reify and reinforce
sexist stereotypes and rigid gender norms.

"Women are this and that, men are this and that."

"Celebrate the Divine Feminine, you are a Goddess."

How can we have a genuine liberatory movement without turning it
into an exclusionary identitarian movement based on grievance? This
goes true also with other liberatory movements such as racial
justice and queer justice movements. At the end of the day, unless
everyone is free, nobody is really free.

Why not abolish gender altogether? What if every human being is
"nonbinary," free from gender yet also encompassing an expanse of
genders? What if we stopped pigeonholing people into binary and
limiting categories?