^Sometimes all you want to hear is,
   "Been there. Done that. I know what it's like. It sucks. I feel
   your pain. Here's a reassuring pat on the shoulder. Hope what
   you're doing is working and if it isn't I hope you can figure
   out another way soon, 'cause it hurts me to see you like this.
   Wanna talk about it, or go do something to get your mind off it
   it? Or maybe if we work together we can fix this problem. Or I
   can leave you alone - which do you prefer?"

   So, 1381 friends: To any of you in pain (physical / emotional /
   spiritual / mental ): I'm saying it to you. I will also say:
   Nothing you did caused it: It just happened. There is nothing
   that you are not doing that is keeping it the way it is. You are
   doing everything you can to fix things. I know you are trying
   your best. Keep on keeping on and you'll get through this better
   than you ever expected to. I know you can.^