I love tolkein and damn, he's right about that - but OUCH - wish
   you could say to someone, "it'd be better if you didn't do that
   - it will hurt you in the end" - but experience always teaches
   best, unfortunately, and so every generation, every individual
   has to learn the same things in the same ways as those who came
   before. Through pain experienced rather than listening and
   thinking about things. "