Hi deana - I see what you mean. Oh, I would never advocate
   sitting back and letting everyone else take care of things all
   of the time. What I'm referring to is when you're a doer,
   learning when to do - when to take charge - and when to say
   "this time its better to not do until help is requested" - is an
   important distinction to learn. I'm starting to learn it now -
   that there's a time to help and ...a time to wait and let
   someone else take charge. You did the 100% right thing - but if
   someone was drowning and I couldn't swim, for me to jump in
   would make the situation worse than if threw a rope, called 911,
   ran around finding someone better qualified to assist, etc. But
   if I could swim then I would jump right in and help without
   hesitation. Know your abilities, and do what your strong points
   are, and know when you're not in charge and when yo... "