'That's one of the replacement scripts. I watched a marriage
   counselor on TV use it yesterday.

   [mind you, I don't 'watch' TV - but I'll watch someone else's
   show sometimes :P]

   It was some show about people married without meeting first.
   Arranged Marriage by TV executives.

   Anyway, this couple was having problems. There was no doubt they
   loved each other she was not seeing her role. They called the
   counselor.

   The counselor, like a magical mother, had the perfect words that
   worked. The counselor pointed out that she was being abusive in
   the relationship.

   No defensiveness in response, just a sudden realization. Tears,
   a bit of blubbering, "I never thought the word "abusive" could
   ever apply to me"...

   and a little later, they went through some apologies, and got
   over the hurdle.

   In short, the counselor handed a new script. Seems to be working
   for them. On TV. On a show that is supposed to be unscripted.
   But even if the show isn't scripted, the people are. I suppose
   we all are somewhat.