Fair enough. I was playing Devil's Advocate in any case. I tend to find that friends are generally more important than family in day-to-day things - sort of ala Camus, although he was a bit darker than I like. "Preferred". Yet, is there no value in forced communion with others? After all, you did not _choose_ your classmates. They were chosen for you. Like family. Amongst the set of classmates, you chose your friends, but the entire set of available people to choose from, was chosen for you.