maybe you have to grow into it. I started looking better beyond
   my mid-30s, and, even with required hair-thinning that goes with
   the territory, I think I look better and better every day.
   Vanity of vanities! All is Vanity! but really, I realized one
   day that my negative feelings about my appearance were based on
   some 3rd grade taunting. I realized "those kids are long gone,
   grown up; why should their taunts remain in my mind?" and I
   purged them.