One question I ask myself frequently is:
   Who am I serving right now?

   It helps sort out *why* I'm doing what I'm doing. I might be
   doing something a certain way because an Aunt told me I should
   do things that way when I was 7.

   Or perhaps a bad experience 'taught me' to do things a certain
   way.

   Or perhaps I'm afraid my friends will laugh at me if I *don't do
   it*. [like: if I don't go to work, I don't make money, I lose my
   job and go on social support... they'll laugh at me and think
   I'm less of a man]. So I'm doing it for them.