I've read that she's as tragically and hopelessly obsessed with
   the Joker in the same way that the Joker is tragically and
   hopelessly obsessed with Batman.... [and the way Batman is
   tragically and hopelessly obsessed with fighting crime].

   The thing about Harley Quinn that is disturbing to me, is the
   same thing that makes that "50 Shades of Gray" (and nearly _all_
   romance novels) so disturbing to me...

   ..is people think this is romantic. They think "this is love".

   Sociopath + batshit crazy.

   And those moments you see the girl who loves to be abused
   (because she thinks "This is love!") actually WAKE UP and say,
   "No one gets to lay a hand on me ever again."... your heart
   breaks because... she knows.

   At some level... she knows.

   But then... she falls back into it again. : batshit crazy is
   right.

   But as you know JH : People ship anything with anything. [1]AC04
   Well, for their sake, I hope they never get into a relationship
   with a human. Their role models suck.

     * I [know someone] who is into romance novels. Same idea; the
       sociopathic twisted idea of "romance and love".

       Anyway, never married, never dated, she likes to break up
       relationships between real humans by gossiping at just the
       right times, setting up situations where they begin to hate
       each other. A criminal mastermind, really. Very subtle in
       her ways because she's pleasant and friendly and helpful.
       But I see it. I can't do anything about it either. She's
       like those girls who ship Harley + the Joker. Scary ppl.
       I've seen ppl ship Kirby + Lucario. Genderless happy hungry
       blob + a epic batman dog. Now THAT'S shipping. They have a
       future.

       But not Joker and Harley. Worst thing is, it's not like the
       franchise can kill her off. She supports a huge fanbase of
       ppl like that.

       Huge fanbase. And... they're everywhere. *sigh*. [I'm not a
       shipper... but I don't have a problem with shipping. It's
       usually harmless enough... but shipping that encourages
       abusive relationships _really_ needs to stop. It probably
       won't but it should]. thanks for bringing up the topic. Been
       meaning to write about it for a while, and now I did. Sorry
       for the tl;dr there] Agreed 10,000%. It's an addiction that
       starts in 3rd/4th grade, never stops. It's related to
       meangirl syndrome as well. Starts around the same time.
       Never ends. Equally twisted ideas about "what's normal".
       [not that I'm an expert of 'normal'. I'm a fan of 'be
       yourself'. I just don't like abusive things].
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