The philosophy of love is an age-old question; Romeo and Juliet
   and the theme certainly shows up in Persian love poetry earlier
   than that. I haven't gone through Greek comedy/tragedy, but I
   wouldn't be surprised if it's a theme there as well.

   It's society-shattering because of one's own relationship to
   that society.

   For some, the ties of family/friends/local culture/career can be
   VERY strong binds indeed; careful what you say, careful what you
   do; a game of very local politics, not causing offense...
   litterings of little white lies to keep people's illusions about
   their reality intact.

   It's a minefield and hard to navigate.

   But when you want to do something controversial to your social
   group, breaking their illusions down... there is often a strong
   backlash, especially when you are breaking from others'
   preconceived notions of "who you are" and your role to play.

   It's one of the annoying parts of living in society, at least
   for me. I try to be the neutrino and have minimal impact on
   matter/energy and just pass on through when I can