Community is Fiction "This account has been terminated due to repeated or severe violations of our Community Guidelines..." saith the lockout message on u-tube when an account is disabled. I'm here to tell that community is dead. There is no more community. Community is fiction. It no longer exists except as fodder used by advertisers to lull us into a false sense of security that we do have people who agree with us and also buy their product. We used to have community. It was very real. People knew each other, they interacted, they trusted each other and they tried to make life better for everyone in their community. Not community is a lie, a buzz word, perpetrated by politicians to fill the gaps in between the times when they insinuate they might actually have our interest in mind. Community is no longer with us and we should grieve its passing. What happened? Television and now the internet. That's what happened. You have mom watching television in one room, dad in another and the kids in each of their rooms with their own tv or ipod. The family unit has been separated by time, motivation and the razzel dazzle that 'entertains' them. It goes even further back than that. It used to be, back in rural America, that four generations would live under one roof. That was important because grandparents could fill in the gaps between times when the parents were working so hard to raise the kids. Some important life lessons were taught by grandparents. Not only was the wisdom and experience of a mature generation passed down, but kids would often see the realities of life through their grandparents growing old. It was motivation to survive and to achieve in life. During that time we didn't have tv. The pace of life was different as well. People would stop and talk to one another, on the street, if they happened to meet. Visitors might ride a horse and buggy and stay the night to make the trip back in reasonable time. Jefferson once explained how he had a notebook, and when he visited a friend\'s house with a library, he might stay two weeks and jot notes from the books in his acquaintance's library. Do we even comprehend the community our forefathers had? One interview [find source] about radio's introduction into society back in the twenties, one of the interviewed stated how she stopped playing the piano when they got a radio. Instead of practicing the piano she would listen to the radio. I think she touches on the motivation of many faced with media verses an experience. It's so much easier to turn it on and be entertained. I don't know. I'm just touched with a bout of surmiseses here. Don't know what happened to community but it's gone. "It takes a village to raise a child." The loss of community has destroyed our social fabric and the strength of our country. "Divide and conquer." America is no more because of the loss of community. I participated in a little experiment: I joined the Grange. You see they got a computer lab with high speed internet access donated. I needed a place to meet prospective clients, and I didn't want to bring them to my house so I volunteered to manage the computer lab at the Grange hall in order to meet people for the purposes of discussing software. It didn't actually work like that, although that's what I was thinking I would like to do when I first went down to the computer lab. It was an all volunteer organization and I knew people would be hesitant to volunteer their time each Saturday to open the lab. Instead I joined the Grange. I paid their membership and started attending meetings. My goal was more than just the computer lab; I did have intentions of getting involved in the community. The Grange seemed like a perfect venue. It just happened, quite naturally, because I talked so much about computers and electronics, that they asked me to manage the Grange computer lab on Saturdays. There's a lot of politics in the Grange, or amongst any group of people for that matter. Fraternal organizations like this can be a stepping point into politics and if you work with people there are 'politics'. And politics are rarely very pretty. Jill hates Jane. Bob tries to talk down Jim. Bosley picks up a loose end that Terry missed and makes sure to tell everybody at the next meeting. You know how company politics can get quite messy. I'm reminded of when I was six or seven and we had the I hate Stevie club. We had cardboard boxes and everything and one week, I don't remember why, but all the kids on the street were invited except Stevie. Then the next week it was Mikey, the I hate Mikey club. Might have been Jimmy next, and I can remember a couple of times not being invited. The same thing in the office or any work environment. It seems to move around. One day it's this or that person and the next them or they. It's gossip and politics fueled by our influences from life and the media. Community's not going to back us any more. You can almost plant rumors and wait for the results. It's a sport for people. They set each other up and tear people down. "I'm not one to say, and you know I never talk about anyone behind their backs, but ...". It's over. The salvo has been fired. Same with the Grange, except nobodies getting a pay check. We all become, however, quite committed to the goals and take extraordinary strides to make things happen. Politics enter the picture. The Grange is also a follower of parliamentary rules. You have a master of ceremonies, committee members, there are certain ways to say things at meetings, it's quite remarkable, parliamentary rule akin to Robert's Rules of Order. Amongst all this fanfare is a structure and that structure is under constant manipulation, gossip and innuendo by members to achieve their goals. There are some tremendous battles that go on in any fraternal organization and the politics gets quite messy. Unfortunately this Grange hall was in a rural area that was quickly being converted to residential as the real estate boom mowed down the trees and houses and cul-de-sacs replaced farm land. In the Grange hall they had picture albums of when they met going back all the way to the forties. The hall was filled with people in the forties, fifties and sixties, and even into the seventies, at times. By the eighties it was empty. It was difficult in the early 00's, when I joined, to even get enough people for a quorum (eight). The rural and farming community that once thrived in this area was long gone, now replaced by rich yuppies who dominated the landscape and could care less if their neighbor was alive or dead. This community organization which used to have canning displays and barn raisings was long gone as locks replaced open farm houses that once dotted the landscape. The demise of community started when we first moved from the farms to the cities for work. The first to be separated from the family unit were the grandparents. The stripped down family units moved to the cities and the responsibility of raising children was turned over the the schools as father and then mother entered the work force having less and less time for the influences needed to raise children. The community dissipated almost without anybody noticing. There were attempts to maintain community in the suburbs but it lacked the real life impact of the farm. Media further took over the home's center piece and community was relegated to social clubs, fiction and corporate hype to get you to think everybody else is, so why not you. Living, breathing, pulsing, thriving, barn raising community that once was has been relegated to history and community expressed by politicians and Hollywood only fiction. Let us morn the loss of community. kb 2012 kbushnel.sdf-us.org/contact.html