--- title: With New Pattern date: 2024-01-06T17:00:36+09:00 --- > "Hello. I'm Yanee, a friend of yours. We have already arrived at the meeting place. Where are you? I called you, but no one answered." The message sounded all too familiar, coming through Line Messenger. This type of catfishing is no longer surprising. If a woman I don't know sends me an online message, there's at least a 200% chance it's a scam. Is it possible that we've known each other for so long that I don't remember her? No. If you do, please don't contact me, and we can all have peace with your regret. There are many other ways to approach me, such as asking if I'm a tour guide or a salesperson, but these are essentially the same. In any case, I usually decline the conversation as politely as possible without berating or ignoring them. > "Who is this? Are we friends?" > "I think you have the wrong phone number." The reason for this is that the person probably has my phone number anyway, and even if they don't, at least they have my username, so there's nothing to be gained by pissing them off. So I should end the conversation so they don't get angry, but so they don't bother me anymore. > "I don't usually talk with strangers online, and there's a big age difference between you and me, so I don't think it's going to be easy for us to find something to talk about that we can share, so maybe you should find a younger friend. Have a nice day..." Of course, there are times when this doesn't work and they are persistent, in which case I just tell them I'm not going to respond anymore and end the conversation. But today, I was getting a little tired of dealing with these messages, so I decided to try something different. > "Hey, I'm at home, I didn't hear anything about your appointment today." After saying this, I looked to see how the other side would react, but no, what is this? There has been no word since then. I tweaked the conversation pattern just a little bit and it worked so well. surprising. I didn't have to tell them that I don't know them or that I'm not interested. Next time, I'll try this for a while. Of course, after a while, the opponent will come up with a different pattern.