[HN Gopher] Best and worst decisions I've made
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Best and worst decisions I've made
 
Author : Tomte
Score  : 88 points
Date   : 2023-01-27 06:13 UTC (16 hours ago)
 
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| holistio wrote:
| I'd like to see a compilation of "The 10 Best and Worst HN title
| crops"
 
  | dang wrote:
  | This one chould really be cropped to just "Decisions I've made"
  | but I wasn't sure I should dare.
 
  | jefftk wrote:
  | For context, the original title of "The 10 Best and Worst
  | Decisions I've Ever Made" was initially automatically cropped
  | to "And Worst Decisions I've Ever Made".
 
| zokier wrote:
| Are fixed-rated mortgages really that common in US? Around here
| afaik pretty much all mortgages are variable-rate, generally
| EURIBOR or something close to it. Or am I confusing things here?
 
  | irrational wrote:
  | Thankfully fixed is the norm. My home interest rate is 2.2%.
  | With the way interests rates have gone the past year, I'm
  | thankful it is fixed.
 
  | Marazan wrote:
  | Variable rate plus prepayment penalty is basically criminal and
  | you wouldn't find that in the UK.
  | 
  | You would have a variable rate with no repayment fee or a short
  | fixed rate (max of 10 years) with a repayment fee.
 
  | letmeinhere wrote:
  | Not just fixed but highly leveraged, repayable at any time, and
  | with tax deductible interest payments. All courtesy of the
  | federal government, but sufficiently submerged as to form an
  | upper and middle class that believes they are rugged
  | individualists.
  | 
  | Serves as the vast majority of our government's intervention in
  | housing, with very small sums for (a few) very low income
  | people and basically nothing for anyone in between.
 
  | hansvm wrote:
  | As a purchaser, you would often want fixed-rate. A variable
  | rate is subject to the ups and the downs, but a fixed rate you
  | can always refinance (at a cost, but one that's beaten out in
  | the long-term by better average interest on a typical loan) to
  | a lower fixed rate when available and ignore when rates climb.
  | Since 30-yr loans are common, plans that play out on 5-10yr
  | timescales are relevant. Given that banks are willing to offer
  | them, you'd need an out-of-the-ordinary situation (selling
  | soon, believing rates will continually decrease slowly, not
  | being well educated, unique credit situation making rates
  | favorable for one loan type and not another, ...) to choose a
  | different option.
 
  | inglor_cz wrote:
  | I don't think I _could_ get a fixed-rate mortgage in Czechia at
  | all.
  | 
  | The max fixation period I regularly see on offer is 7 years.
 
    | foobarian wrote:
    | It's because the US government nationalized a couple of banks
    | that guarantee the 30-year fixed loans. It's not a random
    | accident.
 
  | Gibbon1 wrote:
  | Fixed rate mortgages were part of the New Deal. That part was a
  | response the the abusive banking practices before the great
  | depression. For instance a most loans were interest only.
  | Collateral was subject to 100% seizure on default. The loan
  | could be called in at any time. And the bank could demand
  | payment in either cash or a fixed amount of gold.
 
  | ct0 wrote:
  | I know of only 1 person who has an ARM, everyone else is fixed
  | rate.
 
  | piyh wrote:
  | They're the default choice. ARM is about 10% of originations
 
  | dghlsakjg wrote:
  | Fixed rate 30 yr. Mortgages are the default in the US
 
    | afandian wrote:
    | Does that mean fixed rate for 30 years? That would be
    | unthinkable in the UK. From what I've seen, even 10 years
    | would be unconventional.
 
      | AndrewDucker wrote:
      | Yeah, even ten years is unusual in the UK. If for no other
      | reason than it being quite a bit risk for the bank giving
      | the loan that interest rates won't go up for a decade.
 
      | snarf21 wrote:
      | That is correct. This is why home ownership is the main
      | wealth building tool here.
 
      | irrational wrote:
      | My home mortgage interest rate is fixed at 2.2% for the
      | entire 30 years of the loan.
 
      | chrismcb wrote:
      | Yes. It means a fixed rate for 30 years. Unless you
      | refinance the only thing that changes is your property tax.
      | 15 years is really the way to go, as it typically isn't
      | that much more per month. But 30 is the standard.
 
        | sidewndr46 wrote:
        | No clue where you are at, but my homeowner's insurance
        | definitely goes up more often than once every 30 years.
 
        | ghaff wrote:
        | Well, there are a bunch of things. Insurance and all the
        | other maintenance and upkeep costs associated with owning
        | a home. But, still, in general locking in a mortgage
        | means locking in costs for the most part even if it
        | doesn't eliminate spending generally.
 
      | gnopgnip wrote:
      | It is a result of a government to encourage/subsidize home
      | ownership. A few other countries do fixed rates for 20-40
      | years, France for instance.
 
      | john_fushi wrote:
      | (In Canada) The max my bank offers is 10 years, and it
      | comes at a premium. The standard I see around me are 5
      | years.
 
  | binarytox1n wrote:
  | Fixed rate is the standard in the US. If someone here gets an
  | adjustable rate, I usually assume they are financially
  | illiterate.
 
    | ct0 wrote:
    | And extremely optimistic.
 
    | coolestguy wrote:
    | Banks set the fixed rate & they more than anyone else knows
    | what will most likely happen to rates in the future because
    | the banks are the ones in closed door meetings with reserve
    | banks/government.
    | 
    | Do you think they'd set a fixed rate where they lose?
 
    | bluGill wrote:
    | I wouldn't say illiterate.
    | 
    | If rates are going down they are a great choice as you will
    | refinance in a couple years anyway. However you have to
    | really know what rates (read the economy) will do so that
    | just as they reach the bottom (you don't need to hit the
    | exact bottom, just get close) to refinance to fixed rate.
    | 
    | They are also good if you have reason to believe you won't
    | live there for more than a couple years. (in general renting
    | is better than buying if your time frame is less than 7-10
    | years, but local factors may force you to buy anyway).
    | 
    | Since ARMs are lower rates they save you money in the short
    | run. However they tend to adjust up after the terms and so
    | can really hurt you.
 
      | DontchaKnowit wrote:
      | Ignorant here because I dont know how ARMs are actually
      | structured as far as what the lender can and cant do, but
      | the idea of signing a loan contract and having no garauntee
      | of the upper bound of the interest rate is absolutely wild
      | to me. Banks will fuck you at any opportunity they have, so
      | habding then a loaded gun and thinking theyre not gonna
      | raise rates without a reason is crazy to me.
 
        | savanaly wrote:
        | The beauty of competition. The person lending you money
        | always could fuck you over, but the greed of other banks
        | would save you in that scenario. Which they know, so they
        | don't fuck you over. Same reason grocery stores don't
        | wait until you fill your cart up and then jack up the
        | prices as soon as you reach the register.
 
        | Our_Benefactors wrote:
        | Oh, but they can do that now. I've been in grocery stores
        | where they had ip-addressable e-ink screens for the price
        | tags which updated regularly.
 
        | svachalek wrote:
        | Even if there were no limitations in the contract,
        | there's still a market. If your bank diverged too far you
        | can just refinance. And if the whole market is high,
        | inflation is probably crazy and you're watching the
        | principal dwindle to insignificance anyway.
 
      | eric-hu wrote:
      | One more specific example of someone taking a calculated
      | short term risk: home flippers. They have had both good
      | times and bad in the last 15 years. Those who financed with
      | lower costs during hotter markets had better margins.
 
        | KerrAvon wrote:
        | House flipping should probably be banned, though. It's
        | bad for the homeowners who buy the house because it's
        | invariably low-quality contractors who do the work and
        | they invariably don't do it to code. It's bad for the
        | neighborhood because the residents aren't stable.
 
      | KerrAvon wrote:
      | I would say close to illiterate. I don't know what
      | mortgages are like in other countries, but in the US you
      | want a fixed rate or you want to rent. An ARM can really
      | fuck you up.
      | 
      | > They are also good if you have reason to believe you
      | won't live there for more than a couple years
      | 
      | Generally speaking, it's better to rent in that case.
      | You'll have more flexibility and substantially less risk.
 
    | senthil_rajasek wrote:
    | Between 2009 and 2021 ( low and decreasing interest rate
    | regimes) ARM 3,5 or 7 year were a better choice to fixed rate
    | mortgages.
    | 
    | ARMs are not a bad choice if you know what you are doing.
    | 
    | It is also a great choice if you are not planning to stay at
    | a place for all your life.
 
      | InTheArena wrote:
      | But 2007/2008 drove a number of people w/ these mortgages
      | into bankruptcy.
      | 
      | It's a risk thing.
 
    | abrookewood wrote:
    | Funny, cause I think the exact opposite. I've read numerous
    | papers and in Australia at least, you are statistically
    | better off on a variable rate something like 2/3 of the time.
    | You pay a premium for the security of a stable interest rate.
 
      | irrational wrote:
      | My interest rate is fixed at 2.2%. It seems highly unlikely
      | that interests rates are going to drop below 2% for a
      | significant amount of time.
 
      | thfuran wrote:
      | You can also (probably) save money by never buying any kind
      | of insurance, but insurance is a useful risk mitigation.
      | Someone who got an ARM a few years ago and is hitting the
      | variable rates around now probably sees their interest rate
      | roughly double. They likely aren't much reassured by the
      | fact that historically, most people's mortgages had better
      | timing.
 
    | rfrey wrote:
    | Why? When I looked into it (about a decade ago), variable
    | rates had paid less overall than fixed for every 10 year
    | window over the previous 50 years. I always assumed people
    | getting fixed rate were overleveraged and couldn't assume the
    | rational risk of the variable.
 
  | Deadron wrote:
  | It depends. The come and go based on legislation and the
  | current fixed interest rates. They were very popular for a bit
  | but as the fixed rates kept dipping they seemed to mostly
  | vanish. They seem to only really be popular when financial
  | institutions can easily resell them as they tend to target the
  | lower income brackets.
 
| jakespencer wrote:
| I like Jamey Stegmaier, love his games, love the way he runs his
| business.
| 
| It's hilarious to me that his post generated so much discussion
| about flossing and variable-rate mortgages.
 
| neogodless wrote:
| Hacker News submission logic likely excised the first few words,
| as the real title is:
| 
| "The 10 Best and Worst Decisions I've Ever Made"
| 
| (Also note, it's 7 good decisions and 3 bad ones, for a total of
| 10.)
 
| JackFr wrote:
| > Not a few weeks, not a few months, but the full academic year.
| I had studied Japanese since middle school, and I had an amazing
| time fully immersing myself in the wonderful world of Kyoto for
| those 9 months.
| 
| I couldn't agree more, but would like to recommend the year long
| high school exchange home stay. It seems to be far less common
| than it was in the 70's and 80's but it is truly life changing.
| Experiencing a culture for a year, not as a tourist is an
| incredibly broadening experience. In my mind what makes it
| surpass the university study abroad, is that for many people the
| college experience, can at times be very isolating, while the
| experience of a home stay with a host family avoids that.
 
  | bluGill wrote:
  | That depends on the host family. I've know a few that got a
  | miserable experience. You have to accept the lifestyle of your
  | host family - do they stay home, or go out any party. If stay
  | home is it watching TV, reading books, playing board games,
  | caring for the farm (which they expand to fit all possible
  | labor), knitting sweaters, or something else. If it is going to
  | parties, what kind - is it just getting drunk, dancing, a music
  | jam, bowling, or something else. Depending on your personality
  | you may enjoy some of the above and hate others.
 
    | darkwater wrote:
    | Some persons might discover that their personality was just
    | molded but how their family lives. And that they might
    | actually like this other style more. Or both, and create a
    | mix when they go to live by themselves.
 
  | soperj wrote:
  | you can do the homestay thing in university as well fyi.
 
| zetazzed wrote:
| I loved being a computer science major at a school with a great
| department. But my only regret is that it felt impossible to do a
| year abroad. So many prereqs built upon each other that being out
| of the loop for one year would make it really hard to catch up.
| At the same time, our study abroad programs were very oriented
| around arts or social sciences. So I could go to the University
| of Milan or a multi-university program that hopped through
| Southern Africa. Both of these would've been amazing experiences
| but probably not great for CS progress.
| 
| Oh well, I eventually got to travel to California, which has been
| beautiful and exotic for this former east-coaster... ;)
 
| lostmsu wrote:
| A list you could find in every other feel good article. Half not
| applicable to most, the other might be survivor bias. IMHO,
| nothing really to see.
 
| Waterluvian wrote:
| I didn't really know that not flossing every day was even an
| option. To me that's equivalent to seeing a blog post saying,
| "changing my underwear every day was one of the best habits I
| formed."
| 
| Now, I'm not trying to rag on the author. I just think it's a
| great reminder that my personal life context is not the same as
| everyone else's.
 
  | BeetleB wrote:
  | One of the top uses of Beeminder? Flossing daily.
  | 
  | https://www.beeminder.com/
 
  | jefftk wrote:
  | _The first nationally representative analysis designed to
  | determine how many people floss their teeth found that those
  | who floss daily amount to 30 percent of the population. Just
  | over 37 percent report less than daily flossing; slightly over
  | 32 percent say they never floss._ --
  | https://www.usnews.com/news/articles/2016-05-02/how-many-ame...
 
    | Waterluvian wrote:
    | And if you asked me to estimate the % as a kid, based on how
    | my parents treated not flossing (as much an offense as
    | swearing), I would say... maybe 5% don't floss.
    | 
    | I'm fascinated by the delta between what's typical, and what
    | I grew up thinking typical is.
 
  | inglor_cz wrote:
  | I don't floss, but I started using interdental brushes at about
  | 30 years of age and my gums are _very_ happy. I had significant
  | teeth problems before, and the old mistakes obviously have
  | consequences until today, but development of any new problems
  | has slowed down to an almost negligible crawl.
 
  | lm28469 wrote:
  | Never flossed, never heard of anyone flossing in my circles.
  | 
  | It seems like a very country specific thing, and afaik studies
  | find very little to no benefits to flossing.
  | 
  | People look at me weird when I tell them I brush my teeth three
  | times a day, here it seems like people are told to do it twice
  | per day.
 
    | popotamonga wrote:
    | I brush every single time i eat. Even if it's a snack. WFH
    | forever helps make that possible.
 
      | the__alchemist wrote:
      | If your foods contain acid, you may be causing rapid damage
      | to your teeth by doing this.
 
      | jemmyw wrote:
      | Not immediately after eating I hope, that would do more
      | damage than not.
 
        | efnx wrote:
        | Why is that?
 
        | mfgs wrote:
        | Acidic foods and drinks will temporarily soften the
        | enamel in your teeth. Brushing right afterwards can
        | remove the softened enamel.
        | 
        | Brushing right after drinking acidic soft drinks or soda
        | is meant to be much worse for your teeth than not
        | brushing.
 
        | robocat wrote:
        | I thought one weird trick to having good teeth was
        | outright avoiding sugary drinks (soft drinks) and snacks.
        | I always assumed avoiding causes was more important than
        | remediation (teeth cleaning). Anecdotally, it seems
        | reasonable.
        | 
        | That said, flossing gets rid of obvious stuck gunk, so I
        | do that (with care to avoid damaging gums).
 
        | pcthrowaway wrote:
        | It's not just sugar. Soda water would do it too.
        | 
        | And it's not just carbonated beverages. Tea also is
        | acidic
 
        | julianeon wrote:
        | Thanks for this comment. Going to change my eating habits
        | as a result.
 
        | snazz wrote:
        | If you ate something acidic, brushing might just rub the
        | acid into your teeth. I'm not quite sure how big of a
        | deal it is but that's my guess as to why you want to wait
        | a bit.
 
      | lawkwok wrote:
      | One culture shock while in South Korea is that people who
      | brush their teeth after every meal in the office. Teachers
      | would even walk around the hallway with a tooth brush in
      | their mouth.
 
    | jrib wrote:
    | I remember being taught in school (United States in the early
    | 90s) to brush teeth three times a day. This seemed odd to me
    | since no one brought a toothbrush to school to brush after
    | lunch.
 
    | jimkleiber wrote:
    | I'm curious, as some cultures also have toothpicks on every
    | restaurant table and toothpicks seem as if they might provide
    | similar benefits to flossing...do people in your country use
    | toothpicks a lot?
 
      | alanbernstein wrote:
      | The main purpose of flossing is to scrape the narrow sides
      | of the teeth, not to remove material from between the gaps.
 
    | abrookewood wrote:
    | Not sure about the evidence/research, but proving that
    | flossing does more than brushing seems simple enough: just
    | brush until you are satisfied, then pull out the floss and
    | see what it pulls out from in between your teeth. Flossing
    | never fails to extract some amount of food when I do it.
 
      | michaelcampbell wrote:
      | > Flossing never fails to extract some amount of food when
      | I do it.
      | 
      | Now, prove that that amount of food actually does damage,
      | and you have something.
 
        | nick__m wrote:
        | Does halitosis count ? ;P
 
        | gweinberg wrote:
        | Yes. If all flossing does is cut down on the bad breath,
        | that's still a benefit.
 
      | ericmcer wrote:
      | My dentist said something similar, that flossing will pull
      | a bunch of stuff out of my teeth. I never floss and on the
      | rare occasion I do nothing comes out, maybe a little blood.
      | I don't know if anyone else has experienced this, I don't
      | really floss anymore though as it just feels like jamming
      | string between my teeth for no reason. Never had a cavity
      | or dental problem of any kind, in my mid 30s. Floss once a
      | month maybe.
 
    | cainxinth wrote:
    | > _afaik studies find very little to no benefits to
    | flossing._
    | 
    | My gut reaction to that statement was incredulity, but the
    | intro to the wiki article for flossing confirms it:
    | 
    | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dental_floss
    | 
    | > _...empirical scientific evidence demonstrating the
    | clinical benefit of flossing as an adjunct to routine tooth
    | brushing alone remains limited._
    | 
    | Who knew?! I'm not going to stop flossing though. I didn't
    | always and I believe it had a very positive impact on my gum
    | health in particular. I always get high marks from the dental
    | hygienist.
 
      | marcosdumay wrote:
      | That looks a similar situation to that famous "we found no
      | evidence that parachutes increase the chances of survival
      | when jumping out of a plane" joke study.
      | 
      | It looks like a very difficult study to conduct, and will
      | certainly give you a very predictable result.
 
      | gpt5 wrote:
      | The main problem is that there are zero long term studies
      | on flossing.
      | 
      | Gum recession and Gengivitis take decades to develop, until
      | you are old and don't have enough of gums left to hold your
      | teeth.
 
        | softsound wrote:
        | Decades? Nah just a few years is all you need, a lot of
        | it is more apparent from eating disorders. Even with
        | flossing + brushing daily it can be hard to overcome for
        | some people once you have it.
        | 
        |  _Sadly can confirm as I had no cavities in high school,
        | did terrible in my 20 's especially around 20-27 went
        | through a lot of depression, lack of money/medical care/
        | in and out of work a lot and I'm trying to fix what I can
        | just starting my 30's after losing 2 teeth_ It can be
        | hard to overcome shame when already depressed so it's
        | hard to visit a dentist moreso if you have no money to do
        | anything.
        | 
        | It's easy to screw up even more so if you have bad genes
        | on top of it, a lot of my family has issues with teeth.
        | 
        | At least stem cells can be found within your teeth and
        | there is a process now to regrow some of your teeth with
        | your own stem cells, doesn't replace implants though but
        | helps. This process isn't popular yet but at least it's
        | possible in a few areas in the states.
 
      | treis wrote:
      | There's little evidence that check ups/cleanings do
      | anything either. Same goes for annual physicals.
 
      | LeonenTheDK wrote:
      | Well there's a surprise, my hygienist and dentist always
      | encourage flossing, and anecdotally my gums are way happier
      | (no bleeding or puffing) when I'm flossing daily compared
      | to when I'm not. I guess it could be that however my mouth
      | is configured, and with the types of food I generally eat,
      | I benefit from flossing but many others with different
      | mouths and diet wouldn't.
 
        | BeetleB wrote:
        | Same here. I've had ups and downs with flossing (going
        | months at a time with and without it). Without fail, when
        | I see the dentist/hygienist, for the times I've not been
        | flossing they can easily see my gums are in bad shape.
        | 
        | Anecdotal, but still.
 
        | lfowles wrote:
        | I think the tell is mostly that gums bleed after flossing
        | if they haven't been flossed in a while.
 
        | BeetleB wrote:
        | Yeah that's normal if you haven't flossed for a while.
        | Goes away within a week or two.
 
        | 411111111111111 wrote:
        | Do you not have a Sonicare toothbrush? I felt flossing
        | became pointless when I switched as there was never
        | anything left after regular cleaning
 
      | Marazan wrote:
      | The main problem with a lot of studies of oral hygiene is
      | that peoples oral hygiene technique is often really
      | bad/variable.
      | 
      | Like, people who floss often floss with poor technique so
      | it is hard to study the benefits of flossing vs not
      | flossing.
      | 
      | Peoplevs toothbrushing technique is all over the place so
      | hard to study the benefits of electric tooth brush vs
      | manual.
      | 
      | Etc, etc.
 
    | jamiegreen wrote:
    | Same. Brush 3 times daily, never really floss. Not sure about
    | the benefits, but my dentist doesn't complain. Then again,
    | this is Britain.
 
      | netruk44 wrote:
      | My dentist in the US said to me that they would actually
      | prefer people to brush less and floss more. They made a
      | point of saying that if you brush twice a day and don't
      | floss at all, they would instead prefer you to brush once a
      | day and completely replace the other brushing session with
      | flossing. (The ideal is brush AND floss every session, but
      | they've learned that just telling people to do that results
      | in them not actually changing anything)
      | 
      | I honestly don't know how good of advice that is, but I
      | brush and floss daily, so it wasn't really directed at me
      | in the first place, hah.
 
        | jemmyw wrote:
        | I gave up flossing. It has made no difference as far as I
        | can tell, and my dentist hasn't noticed. As far as I
        | know, research has been ambiguous on the benefits and
        | it's been dropped as a recommendation by some
        | organisations because of the lack of evidence.
        | 
        | The change that did make a difference to me, and is
        | supported by evidence: switch to an electric toothbrush.
 
        | jrib wrote:
        | Might depend on what you eat but when I first started
        | flossing, the gunk that I saw being removed was enough to
        | convince me that flossing was a good idea.
        | 
        | It may depend a lot on the tightness between your teeth,
        | for example, how beneficial it is?
 
        | shinycode wrote:
        | It surely depends on how your teeth are aligned. Without
        | flossing if I eat red meat for example every single time
        | some get stuck and brushing never gets it out. My wife
        | with the same meal never ever had this problem (or did
        | any flossing btw)
 
    | arwhatever wrote:
    | When I was in elementary school we were shown training
    | materials which recommended that we brush there times a day.
    | 
    | When we would ask the teacher how we should arrange to do so
    | as young school students, the response was always something
    | like, "Suppose we change the subject ..."
 
  | brookside wrote:
  | If I don't floss my breath stinks. So I floss.
  | 
  | The thing I wonder about is the "wax" on waxed floss. Am I
  | shredding PFAS (forever-chemicals) all over my mouth?
  | 
  | Waxed dental floss seems like the exact use case for PFAS -
  | making something non-stick/slippery.
  | 
  | And...after searching instead of wondering - yes some flosses
  | contain PFAS.
  | https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/nidhisubbaraman/oral-b-...
 
| AnotherGoodName wrote:
| One thing that's clearly missing from this article is any context
| on who the author is. Not even a name.
 
  | jakespencer wrote:
  | This is a blog post from Jamey Stegmaier, who runs Stonemaier
  | Games. He is one of the most successful designers and
  | publishers of board games from about the last ten years, having
  | designed Scythe and Viticulture (among others), and published
  | Wingspan - which is probably THE most popular "designer" board
  | game in that time frame. This is a post on his company's blog,
  | and that context is known to the target audience.
 
  | [deleted]
 
| andrewclunn wrote:
| This is mainly a list of best decisions with a few worsts thrown
| in at the end. That said, my own worst decisions list would
| likely mostly amount to several women's names. A few of those
| same names might also make the best list though too.
 
  | worik wrote:
  | Exactly.
  | 
  | Relationships with other people are the best and worst things
 
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