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|u/JimAbaddon - 8 hours
|
|I remember back when I was naive enough to believe that I could befriend
|people who sought friendships on here. I soon realised why they sought
|friendships on here.
|u/ExaltedLordOfChaos - 6 hours
|
|I wanna be friends but only if you send me your credit card details /s
|u/JimAbaddon - 5 hours
|
|At least you can make more money. The time I gave them is gone for
|good.
|u/Gexku - 5 hours
|
|I think it was in The Sopranos, maybe I'm wrong, but some guy is
|going after another who owes him 20 bucks, and an older man tells
|him, "see it that way; it cost you $20 to get rid of him, he's
|never gonna bother you again" Wise words. Some guy owes me 100€,
|haven't seen him in months, good riddance.
|u/Neoxsat - 4 hours
|
|Actually that line is from a gangster movie called "A Bronx
|tale".
|u/Gexku - 4 hours
|
|Yes, thank you, I couldn't remember
|u/Different_Big5876 - 48 minutes
|
|I lost a tv this way. Absolutely worth it tho.
|u/bigvahe33 - 1 hour
|
|yeah they yell stuff at me like WHY DID YOU REDEEM
|u/StreetGrape8723 - 33 minutes
|
|r/fuckthes
|u/SunChamberNoRules - 2 hours
|
|This is rough if you live in a country other than your own. You want
|to meet people to make friends, but the only people you meet are
|people that are looking for friends because they're difficult people
|in the first place. Like with dating, best place to make friends is
|through shared hobbies. Do something you enjoy, enjoy it with other
|people, and you can soon start hanging out. I recently got invited to
|a Diwali festival by a dude I'd been playing badminton with for a few
|weeks, it's great.
|u/OptimusMatrix - 1 hour
|
|One of my best RL friends I met through reddit. Met in on the Arizona
|Growers sub and turns out, we live like 3 miles apart. We meet up on
|Sunday mornings at like 7:30 for a smoke and coffee, cause we're both
|2 old guys with family's and it's the only time we both don't have
|anything going on. We then recruited a couple more people in our area
|going through their post histories, looking to see how they grow and
|the quality of them. Now there's a group of 5 of us locally that all
|talk and hang out. You will have more success looking on local subs.
|u/IIlIIlIIlIlIIlIIlIIl - 47 minutes
|
|I think the difference comes from someone explicitly looking for a
|friend vs. someone just posting and you happen to strike up a
|friendship.
|u/nicannkay - 41 minutes
|
|Jokes on them, I NEVER look at messages or replies.
|u/TimePlankton3171 - 7 hours
|
|heyyyy there sup
|u/PS181809 - 3 hours
|
|hey send dudes
|u/procrastinating-_- - 3 hours
|
|U mean nudes?
|u/PS181809 - 3 hours
|
|I'm in a fight, I need more men!
|u/procrastinating-_- - 3 hours
|
|K hold on, I will go buy some real quick
|u/SmPolitic - 2 hours
|
|These days it's worth checking if that guy is a Nazi and
|started the fight, or if he is defending against Nazis
|Hopefully it's just a stupid beef unrelated to nazi fucks
|Only the case of bashing nazis is where I'm more than happy
|to join
|u/procrastinating-_- - 1 hour
|
|Bruh what?
|u/fishscale_gayjuic3 - 41 minutes
|
|I did nazi that coming
|u/IDontDeserveMyCat - 38 minutes
|
|Sir this is a Wendy's
|u/Samoman21 - 42 minutes
|
|I got your back bro! Send me the deets.
|u/PS181809 - 16 minutes
|
|37.2431° N, 115.7930° W Need 20 of them in an hour.
|u/MaleficTekX - 1 hour
|
|Stop summoning! That gives them more health and damage!
|u/Cherei_plum - 53 minutes
|
|It's always this if you're a girl They'll start with talking about
|shared interest and by the third day they're asking for pictures.
|Like be it reddit or twitter. Best thing i did was restrict dms on
|both sites. add random ass dick pic and what's the thought
|process behind this lmao like
|u/PS181809 - 52 minutes
|
|Oh so people ask for others to send DUDES all the time?
|u/Cherei_plum - 48 minutes
|
|Yeah like how do i send these many dudes, i don't operate
|fight club!!??
|u/PS181809 - 18 minutes
|
|If people are asking you to send them often, I think you
|should start one. What would be the rules of the fight club
|btw?
|u/Abject_Rhubarb8965 - 2 hours
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|I'm curious why?
|u/JimAbaddon - 2 hours
|
|They don't want to put in the effort. They want someone to entertain
|them, not make friends. The chat isn't even a conversation, more
|like an interview.
|u/Big_Recover_9631 - 1 hour
|
|This is why I literally never make online friends. I have learnt my
|lesson.
|u/Antique-Echidna-1600 - 1 hour
|
|Hi Friend! What's your mother's maiden name and birthday. I just want
|to get to know you.
|u/DeityOfDespairThe2nd - 1 hour
|
|I would rather try to make friends in prison than on this site.
|u/PossessedDevil - 1 hour
|
|I actually found a friend and formed a friendgroup because of reddit
|\^\^"
|u/ChriskiV - 2 hours
|
|People look for friends on Reddit? That's hilarious.
|u/LordWesleyAgain - 1 hour
|
|Reddit has changed my life. I have rules in my personal life that
|came from reddit hookups. Like, no dating lawyers. Ever.
|u/aeoneir - 56 minutes
|
|I have a friend who tried making friends on Reddit. The first person
|she met turned out to be a violent stalker who followed her for a
|year. She had to fake moving 500 miles away because the police refused
|to do anything
|u/JimAbaddon - 46 minutes
|
|It's different for women. With men, I'd advise them against trying
|because no one cares to befriend men. For women, it's for their
|actual safety.
|u/WhoisthatRobotCleanr - 14 minutes
|
|Like through the interwebs? Or to meet in person? My old roommate
|would throw a reddit get together at his house so asked if it was cool
|when he moved in with us. He said his roommates were always gone so he
|was alone anyhow but since we didn't leave for the holidays like they
|had, he wanted permission. We were all a little suspicious but
|liked to host so went with it. Holy shit. 50% cool, 50% yeah no
|shit they don't have friends or see family over the holidays. We had
|to literally drive one girl home because some dude wouldn't leave her
|alone and tried to follow her home. She was terrified and the dude was
|clueless. We called the cops but the non emergency people said since
|he hadn't done anything yet they wouldn't send anyone... Ended up
|getting 4+ guys to escort him home. Were terrified he would randomly
|show back up.
|u/OlriK15 - 57 minutes
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|Feet pics?
|u/19Thanatos83 - 5 hours
|
|There was a dude all of us knew but no one liked. I was bullied as a kid
|so I felt sad for him and introduced him to my friends. To thank me he
|later that evening tried to bang my girlfriend. Great guy.
|u/Independent_Ad4391 - 5 hours
|
|I hope he didnt succeed
|u/19Thanatos83 - 5 hours
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|Nope he didnt, we are still together and married.
|u/SalsichaoTop - 4 hours
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|What about the girlfriend?
|u/UngaBunga_Algorithm - 3 hours
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|To shreds you say?
|u/19Thanatos83 - 4 hours
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|Bad phrasing?
|u/SalsichaoTop - 4 hours
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|That was a joke :< like, you married the guy instead of the gf
|u/19Thanatos83 - 4 hours
|
|I understood
|u/ieatcrows25 - 1 hour
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|Bad phrasing?
|u/AceRed94 - 1 hour
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|That was a joke :< like, you married the guy instead of
|the gf
|u/Level_Spend_142 - 1 hour
|
|I understood
|u/8wiing - 5 hours
|
|That’s wholesome!
|u/Independent_Ad4391 - 5 hours
|
|Most of the times it goes that way. The other cases just get
|rightfully more attention.
|u/Independent_Ad4391 - 5 hours
|
|Very good
|u/SolitaryIllumination - 4 hours
|
|How did you... handle the situation?
|u/19Thanatos83 - 4 hours
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|I didnt, my gf did. She called him out in front of everyone (it was
|in a club while I was at work) and he was kinda shunned.
|u/SUPERSMILEYMAN - 5 minutes
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|Damn, you should marry her.
|u/19Thanatos83 - 3 minutes
|
|Together 20 years, married 10
|u/babykittngirl - 2 hours
|
|damn, what a scumbag
|u/Dusk_Elk - 1 hour
|
|For me he turned out to be a full blown conspiracy nut that thought
|lizard people ruled the world. Dude was a civil engineer.
|u/Western_Secretary284 - 11 minutes
|
|It's more appropriate to think of engineers as highly trained idiots
|rather than intelligent. Source: am engineer.
|u/Chanchito11 - 33 minutes
|
|He’s right you know Lizard people do exist but God rules the world
|he just allows them to have temporary power, they are a race of a
|fallen angel, they are demons, thats why they are so evil, they’re
|job is to separate you from the truth an d separate you from God and
|Jesus who saved you from eternal damnation
|u/bubblebobblesarefor - 7 minutes
|
|Made up on the spot
|u/8wiing - 5 hours
|
|I try my best to be nice to people but like holy fuck. I wish I didn’t
|give so many people 3rd and 4rth chances. They had no friends for a
|fucking reason holy shit.
|u/karmazynowy_piekarz - 3 hours
|
|3 or 4 chances ??? I literaly never gave more than 1 chance in all my
|life
|u/nubbinfun101 - 3 hours
|
|I think 2 is a nice number. Everyone can make a mistake, unless it's
|a really huge one
|u/SmPolitic - 2 hours
|
|Also remember their excuse. If it's the same excuse the second
|time, with no clear attempt at avoiding the same result, not a
|good sign I've taken on the personality of being very hard to
|get to know, so yeah lucky if you get a second chance, while I
|spend most of my time alone, it works out alright most of the time
|Somewhere in the middle would be better, like 2 forgiveness times,
|so yeah good advice
|u/Loud_Consequence537 - 4 minutes
|
|Everyone deserves a second chance. But never a third. Unless it's
|a really huge misstep in which case, screw em.
|u/ThatIndian15 - 2 hours
|
|What do you mean chances? What did they do that made you steer clear
|of them? Edit: *steer
|u/Fresh-Bath-4987 - 1 hour
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|Just for informational purposes, not intended as a personal attack
|and it may just be a typo but the phrase is “steer clear” not “stir
|clear”
|u/ThatIndian15 - 1 hour
|
|Oops…thank you for the notice
|u/Fresh-Bath-4987 - 1 hour
|
|No problem, I misspeak often myself. I swear I’m worse than
|Ricky from Trailer Park Boys sometimes. Lol
|u/offscalegameboy - 5 hours
|
|Made me learn two very sad things: 1. Many people without friends
|interpret you being just a decent, polite human being as you liking
|them. I didn’t enjoy their company very much but they wouldn’t leave me
|alone and I didn’t want to be rude. Took me too long to tell them I
|don’t want to spend time with them in a polite way. 2. Many times there
|are reasons why people don’t have friends. In my cases lots of them had
|very scary anger issues, substance abuse issues, trauma, were badly
|socialised.. and put that all on their friends and let it out on them.
|Of course the friends peaced out after a while and I get it after
|finding out the ugly truth myself. It’s completely fine to struggle and
|have a bad time, it’s not okay to hurt the people who are trying to help
|you and care for you.
|u/BathTubBand - 5 hours
|
|Yep! You learn pretty quick if you start fucking up that even the
|people you love will only put up with so much. And rightfully so.
|So people that don’t even know you for very long owe you nothing,
|unfortunately. It’s the real world. Be kind to yourselves and do your
|best out there! Rock on!
|u/Dosterix - 3 hours
|
|Yep, but well sometimes these people are also aware of that and thus
|actively stop trying to befriend anyone to avoid becoming a burden
|u/bs000 - 2 hours
|
|how did you get this photo of me
|u/onlydabestofdabest - 26 minutes
|
|Gotta work on yourself sometimes. It’s one thing to recognize your
|shortcomings, but you have to be willing to work on them.
|u/notveryAI - 4 hours
|
|Funny thing since this basically means that if you have trauma -
|you're fucked :) You need someone to help you through it, but no one
|has to help you through it, and so no one does, and you are again,
|alone with your trauma. Forever. Don't even get me started on
|therapists. It's just a person who talks to you for money. Been there,
|done that. Having to pay someone for the rest of your days to just
|have someone to talk to. Such a fun world we live in!
|u/Rubickevich - 4 hours
|
|That's the unfortunate truth. I still have friends to talk to, and
|I can even make new ones, but only by not being myself. It's
|extremely exhausting, but people like the funny guy doing jokes all
|the time, which I can be for them. You can't form a meaningful
|connection with anyone, because if I were to tell them about what do
|I actually feel, they would just abandon me. And the worst part is
|that I can't even die and I don't know why. I just don't want to,
|but I also don't want to live. I'm basically stuck.
|u/notveryAI - 4 hours
|
|Don't even have friends, can't make any. I'm on a spectrum so I
|can't even tell if someone is friendly or not. I'm just alone, and
|I know that I will always be alone. I wish I could have courage to
|kill myself, there is nothing to live for when I know that the
|only thing waiting for me in the future is loneliness and trauma
|u/Rubickevich - 4 hours
|
|Well, one thing that you do have is an amazing profile picture.
|Not that it's worth living for, but I just like it, so I wanted
|to point that out. By the way, are you by any chance also
|autistic? I personally find that all my problems root themselves
|from there in some form, but it's also completely out of my
|control.
|u/notveryAI - 4 hours
|
|This pfp do be nice, got very lucky to have it for free as the
|artist used it to practice action shots and featured me there
|for fun >are you by any chance also autistic As I already
|mentioned, I am indeed on a spectrum. And it's not a very
|forgiving one too, irl interactions are just confusing.
|Oftentimes people tell me I'm rude or overly friendly, or very
|loud, and I have no idea what I did wrong, and if someone
|interrupts me when I'm trying to talk - my entire brain just
|like kind of shuts down and I lose any ability to interact
|with people, and just leave for some reason. Out of shame? I
|don't know. I just can't help it. So it makes casual
|conversations never last long and always end confusingly and
|abruptly. Nobody would ever have to deal with that twice
|u/Rubickevich - 4 hours
|
|I wish I could give you some sort of advice, but my way of
|dealing with it is just trying to hide it the best I can,
|which also leaves me miserable. I think it's a little
|easier to talk to other autistic people though. They tend to
|be much more understanding of your own awkwardness. It's
|hard to find them irl though, especially since people don't
|generally mention that, and for good reasons too.
|Fortunately I'm currently in the environment where it's just
|much more common proportionally (I work as a programmer).
|Seeking out such environments isn't the solution either
|though. As I said, I myself don't know what to do, sorry.
|u/throwawaypassingby01 - 2 hours
|
|the point of therapists is not to talk to you. the point of
|therapists is to teach you how to recognise and name your own
|emotions, figure out where they came from and how to deal with them
|in a healthy and constructive way. recognising bad patterns,
|breaking them and replacing them with better coping mechanisms. if
|you're just talking, you're not doing it right.
|u/ManInBlackHat - 9 minutes
|
|This is correct, but when it comes to being lonely and making
|friends as an adult, there’s only so much a therapist can do
|before the nature of society as an adult kicks in. As someone who
|has “done the work” but is still lonely, there’s a reason why
|people talk about the loss of third places as a route to making
|friends. Joining clubs also only goes so far since you run into a
|lot of people where that club might be their schedule “me time”
|for the week since they need to coordinate child care.
|u/notveryAI - 2 hours
|
|Oh I wasn't talking out of my ass. I was talking from my own
|experience. The only thing every single one I tried did was listen
|to me and then tell me some random bs tip straight out of self-
|improvement motivational YouTube videos like "plan your day" and
|"set small goals". Doesn't help anything, just reminds me how
|empty my days are and how aimless my fucking life is. What use a
|plan is if it only has two tasks - wake up and go to sleep? How do
|I set a small goal if I have absolutely zero fucking idea what I
|even want? Whenever I say that to them they just say "it's wrong,
|you have everything already, you just need to think about it
|carefully". Mullin over the same fucking three waypoints I ever go
|to always just makes things worse
|u/TamaDarya - 1 hour
|
|Pro tip - if this is your reaction to therapy, friends, no
|matter how supportive, wouldn't help you. You'd just wear them
|down until they've had enough because, fundamentally, you don't
|care to change anything. You've already given up. It's like
|that saying - you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make
|it drink. You're the horse. Until you're willing to drink,
|nobody else can do anything.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|I am willing to try things, but not when they prove to be of
|no use. You won't teach legless man walk by telling him to
|start moving his toes. The advice given me during therapy was
|not applicable to my situation - one must have something to
|strive to if they are to set goals. One must have something to
|do to write down the plan. Telling them that I don't have
|anything I'd want to plan towards, and that there is nothing
|in my life that could fill my day's plan, just gets ignored.
|They don't care to help me. They care to give me some sniffed
|out paper with instructions they wrote for someone else 30
|years ago. If my life isn't the same as that someone else's
|life, and the things they had aren't the same as things I have
|- well too damn bad, nothing they can do
|u/TamaDarya - 1 hour
|
|If you were willing to try things, you'd find something to
|do. Instead, you're content wallowing in self-pity. I'm sure
|if they'd given you a to-do list instead, you'd complain
|they weren't things you were interested in. That's the
|"make it drink" part. No therapist can make you want to live
|your life. Which you do, in a way, anyway. Otherwise, you
|wouldn't be here fishing for attention on Reddit. You'd be
|in bed staring at the ceiling. Clearly, there are things you
|want, you just ignore them. Go get on some pills, it helps.
|u/SirBiscuit - 59 minutes
|
|Therapists actually have a term for the type of person
|you're talking to. We call it "terminally unique".
|u/CivilizedSassquatch - 52 minutes
|
|Sure bud.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|Issue is I tried everything I could do. Drawing, walking,
|exercising at home, editing, 3d modelling, coding,
|everything. Failed to enjoy them all. I don't have other
|options like something more active because I can't afford
|living alone, and my parents - the people I have to live
|with - do not allow me to do anything dangerous or
|expensive. I tried everything I could, and it didn't help.
|I have no options left. I have no power over my life, and
|getting it would require working more hours a day than is
|even possible. Just renting out one room would cost four
|full-time jobs which is not even the matter of will -
|there is literally not enough time in one day to work four
|full shifts. And I still have university to take care of.
|u/TamaDarya - 41 minutes
|
|Where the fuck are you trying to rent that one room
|costs "four full time jobs"? Downtown Moscow on a
|waiter's salary?
|u/ohkaycue - 55 minutes
|
|There’s a LOT of different therapies, therapy styles, and
|just plain therapist. I would strongly suggest not jumping
|to conclusions Based off what you said I would honestly
|suggest IV ketamine treatment (which has therapy sessions
|some point after; and assuming USA), as psychedelics can
|really help better break apart those questions to be able to
|find the answer. Nothing guaranteed and still requires work
|in therapy, aint some magic pill. But it also isn’t “do
|daily journaling so you feel more productive!” bullshit
|you’re talking about Unfortunately, it’s also very
|expensive. I’m mentioning now because the price should lower
|in the future (but also fuck healthcare), but also there are
|states where some psychedelics are legal. Eg I know if you
|procure you’re own shrooms, you can find therapist to work
|with for a lot cheaper
|u/notveryAI - 54 minutes
|
|I am in Russia. There is almost no therapy available here,
|and also most medicine is inaccessible due to sanctions
|u/TamaDarya - 46 minutes
|
|There's plenty of therapy available in Russia, including
|online appts, for more obscure types. Yes, that includes
|LGBT and Autism/ADHD friendly ones, you just have to
|look. No, not in government clinics, obviously. First
|I hear of psychiatric medicine being inaccessible due to
|sanctions - I'm sure some brands might be, but there are
|always alternatives. Funnily on my way to my psych
|*right now*. ADHD/Autism pills might be harder to
|find, but that's not because of sanctions, there just
|aren't many approved ones to begin with.
|u/notveryAI - 43 minutes
|
|Again, I tried four therapists and failed to make
|progress with any of them. It's either that available
|therapy is bad, or therapy can't help me at all. If it
|didn't help four times in a row, safe to say it's
|never going to
|u/ForAHamburgerToday - 45 minutes
|
|>I am willing to try things But are you willing to *stick
|with them*? Even when it's empty, sad, & boring? Because
|that just *is life* sometimes. Seeing it, living in it. For
|*everyone* that's life sometimes. Being so adamantly
|convinced that you can't be helped, that the advice of
|professionals can't help, and that your situation can't
|change, man it's a recipe for *nothing changing*. Therapy
|can *suck*, but man please try a new therapist, please stick
|with it. Please give yourself a chance.
|u/notveryAI - 41 minutes
|
|I gave myself four chances, and I failed every time. Stuck
|to them for as long as I could, and all I saw was the word
|[placeholder] being plastered over my face as the
|remainders of my money go into their pockets. I can't do
|it anymore, and frankly, can't even afford it anymore. At
|some point, there is no room for any more chances
|u/Mindless-Poetry8240 - 46 seconds
|
|Therapy may not be for you. You should consider suicide.
|u/I_punch_KIDneyS - 1 hour
|
|I'm sorry but this is YOUR failure. About me, deeply suicidal
|and depressed for most of my life. Got to my low point. Tried to
|turn my life around and went into therapy. Got good enough that
|I no longer need meds. Now onto you. Therapists are NOT paid
|friends. Therapists will NOT force you to fix your life.
|Therapists are NOT a magic wizard solution. They are there to
|guide you and point you to your goals. Most of the time they
|will tell you basic advice, common sense advice. You know WHY?
|Because they see you FAILING to do even the basic things that
|"normal" people do. Maybe you need to ask why yourself why you
|even go to therapy. You got a glass of water when you're
|thirsty. Don't splash it on your face and get upset. DRINK IT.
|u/wphxyx - 1 hour
|
|This is such a horrible comment. Some people don't respond to
|therapy, and that's not a failure on their part. Not all forms
|of therapy or therapists are created equal. Somebody having a
|bad experience with therapy is not a character failing.
|u/I_punch_KIDneyS - 1 hour
|
|Therapy will not call you a failure. I could. If that
|person isn't responding well to the cookie-cutter self help
|thing that that person is experiencing with their
|therapists, well I'm just here to try to pull it in another
|direction. Sorry for being crass and mean, I didn't mean
|to.
|u/SirBiscuit - 1 hour
|
|Sure, some people have a bad experience with therapy and not
|all therapists are good, they are just human after all. But
|someone who has had multiple therapists and claims they all
|just made things worse, and that they didn't improve because
|they found the advice and interventions trite is obviously
|not ready for change. Believe it or not those sentiments are
|red flags a lot of therapists screen for, when I hear those
|things I will refuse to take the client and refer them out
|unless they are also very clear they THEY are ready to do
|something different.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|They did not guide ME They guided some random "averaged out"
|person. They tell me a tip, I try it, it makes things worse,
|they tell me it is not possible. Something that clearly
|doesn't work for me, requires change of angle or strategy or
|anything... It all is just ignored. I can keep writing down
|the same two lines "11AM wake up, 1AM go to bed" all year
|long. It would change nothing. But it was still the only
|advice that therapist wanted to give, repeating it like spring
|loaded toy. They don't have personal approach. They seem to
|just have some algorithm that they believe should work, and
|they will slap it onto anyone even if there's no foundation
|for that algorithm to stand on
|u/I_punch_KIDneyS - 1 hour
|
|I believe you and understand your frustration, I've been
|there. It seems you have some sort of expectation of what a
|therapist should do with a patient like you... ...and they
|are FAILING it. That's a good thing, you know why? Because
|deep inside you know what to actually do. Go battle your
|demons brother/sister, goodluck.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|I don't even know what my demons are. My diagnosis is
|autism spectrum disorder, but that one is incurable and
|there is nothing I can do with it. It's all I know
|u/I_punch_KIDneyS - 1 hour
|
|I can't help you internet person, I simply don't know.
|I'm sorry you exist like this.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|I also am. That's why the only way forward I can see
|for me is to not exist. I know no other way of
|existence, so non-existence is the only alternative
|u/SamSibbens - 1 hour
|
|How many therapists did you try? Could have just gotten a
|bad one Also perhaps you'd have more success with a social
|worker instead, in my experience I've gotten more practical
|advice from them
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|Four Also social workers in Russia now have only one goal
|- send me to war, convince me that it's the right way to
|go. It's what they are instructed to do. And I would
|rather die bleeding out in a tub than kill someone who I
|don't believe deserves to die
|u/emil836k - 1 hour
|
|While I’m no expert, I believe trauma isn’t something you can talk
|away with others, but something you, yourself, have to face and
|progress on your own Of course having help from others makes it
|easier, but at the end of the day, you have to be the one facing
|your inner demons (Though this is easier said than done, and some
|demons are just too big to conquer, leaving you with them for the
|rest of your life)
|u/SourceLover - 56 minutes
|
|My inner demons are the fact that there hasn't been a single day
|when anyone in my life has cared about me. Sort of by
|definition, I cannot work through that ongoing trauma by myself.
|u/BocciaChoc - 1 hour
|
|Isn't that the default for men? Suck it up until you're about
|retirement age if you've made it that far and then just die
|u/SirBiscuit - 1 hour
|
|It's the default a lot of men convince themselves of, but it's
|certainly not the only option. Far too many men believe that
|showing emotions will have some sort of absurdly bad negative
|consequence, when it really doesn't.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|Are you saying it because it's true or because you think it's
|right? No matter, would love to skip to the end anyways. If life
|is not worth living, and all that's waiting for me is pain and
|loneliness - death isn't worth delaying. Humanity should go
|extinct.
|u/BocciaChoc - 1 hour
|
|I think if you feel that way you should speak with loved ones or
|seek help, life can suck now and in a years time feel completely
|different.
|u/-sojourn - 40 minutes
|
|I have trauma and several of my friends have died violently in the
|past few years, it’s made me so damn tired, especially reading
|generalizing posts like this. I don’t have the energy for new
|friendships
|u/here4astolfo - 1 hour
|
|Being a fair weather friend seems to be what reddit thinks friends
|should be. This is why everyone is superficial
|u/MachKeinDramaLlama - 54 minutes
|
|But the appropriate person to help you with psychological problems
|**is** a therapist, not random people who don’t deserve having you
|baggage thrown into their laps. A therapist will actually give you
|correct, actionable advise instead of the “common sense” platitudes
|you get from the people who don’t know what else to say. Just like
|you go see a doctor about medical problems or a lawyer about legal
|problems. Don’t just go “eh, it will be fine…” and ignore the
|problem.
|u/Cherei_plum - 50 minutes
|
|People want a community but not when it's their turn to contribute
|in said thing. As it goes, "All for me, none for thee."
|u/Solrelari - 1 hour
|
|The mental equivalent of a herniated disc or broken back. It’s going
|to hurt more and won’t be able to do the same things uninjured
|people can
|u/ChiBurbABDL - 1 hour
|
|As long as I stay on top of my exercises, my three bad discs
|don't limit me at all. Physical therapy is a life-long treatment.
|If I go even a couple of days without stretching, my entire lower
|back is in pain and I can't even sit comfortably or move my left
|leg comfortably. After a bad spasm, I can't even lift my left leg
|to get into the shower. But regular exercise keeps that all at
|bay. The same is true for handling your mental health. It's not a
|"one and done" sort of thing. You have to actively manage yourself
|every single day.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|Why even bother then? It makes life unbearable, and if it is never
|gonna be any better... Why not end it while I'm still not
|completely hunched over? What is it in it to seek for me? Nothing.
|Life is nothing good. Never was. Never will be. I am dead since I
|was 13. Why keep punching a corpse with defibrillator hoping the
|heart will start?
|u/Swergenbande - 58 minutes
|
|In my experience, there will always be some happy moments, maybe
|just while playing a video game you like. And in my experience,
|one happy moment is worth many not happy moments. And if we're
|talking about actively bad moments in my experience, you can
|often work on making them happen less and less until they are
|very rare.
|u/Brullaapje - 1 hour
|
|> Funny thing since this basically means that if you have trauma
|Says who? > Having to pay someone for the rest of your days to just
|have someone to talk to. Maybe start with therapy in a nutshell.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|I tried four actual therapists and 3 out of them just told me that
|writing down the plan for the day - refusing to acknowledge that
|the only things I do are waking up and going to bed, and doing
|anything else ended up too tiresome. The remaining one told me to
|set small goals and refused to acknowledge that I have nowhere to
|even start because I forgot the last time when I knew what I
|wanted
|u/Brullaapje - 1 hour
|
|> The remaining one told me to set small goals and refused to
|acknowledge that I have nowhere to even start because I forgot
|the last time when I knew what I wanted It is your job to start
|a goal, not your therapist. As some other poster said, "you can
|bring a horse to water, but can force it to drink" I can see
|why you don't have friends, and say this as someone who had such
|an abusive childhood that I chose to sleep on the streets. I
|don't have many friends, but if I had your attitude I wouldn't
|have any at all. Hell I probably still would be sleeping on the
|streets.
|u/notveryAI - 1 hour
|
|Thank you for your honesty. It's probably right. I'm just a
|faulty human being. It's just what I am. Undeserving to even
|try. Not knowing what to do because there is nothing that
|could be done. A defective product. The only thing I can do is
|find courage to discard myself
|u/Brullaapje - 1 hour
|
|Aah yes, going to play the victim again no wonder you don't
|have friends.
|u/CivilizedSassquatch - 48 minutes
|
|You are insulting an autistic man for not having
|friends.
|u/Brullaapje - 31 minutes
|
|I am not I am holding him responsible, while it is
|unfair he is autistic it is his responsibility how he
|deals with it.
|u/notveryAI - 58 minutes
|
|I am not saying you are wrong or evil or something. I am
|just trying to find out what went wrong with me, why I am
|incapable of existing like others. And the only thing I
|could ever come up with is that it's just the way I was
|meant to be
|u/Brullaapje - 30 minutes
|
|> I am just trying to find out what went wrong with me,
|why I am incapable of existing like others. You have
|already shown you do not listen to your therapists, why
|would I bother. I apparently you have the luxury not to
|take responsibility.
|u/Penelope_Serendip - 4 hours
|
|So relatable. I still don't know how to back out without being rude or
|simply ghosting
|u/Raubwurst - 4 hours
|
|Please try to learn it. Both ways are no fair handling of other
|people
|u/SmPolitic - 2 hours
|
|> substance abuse issues, trauma, were badly socialised Those ones,
|I'd carefully suggest seeing a therapist, and any time they contact me
|ask them status on that and how its going. Much of our culture needs
|repeated encouragement to seek help. For stuff like that, if you're
|making progress, awesome I want to support that. But if you're not
|making progress, yeah I don't need you as a friend if those issues are
|affecting me, I got my own shit to be working on The violence issues
|can be different, extra careful suggestion? Or just no contact or "the
|grey rock method" is easiest, sadly
|u/Chakramer - 1 hour
|
|In my limited experience I feel like not having control over your
|emotions drives people away. Anger management issues are scary to most
|people, but nobody wants to be your therapist for your other issues
|too.
|u/doop_de_doop3000 - 1 hour
|
|Your second point is quite disgusting to me. Western society has
|forgotten how to care for its people. They must entertain us and
|uplift us or we do not want them. We cannot accept that others will
|ever be a burden or responsibility to us - we must always be free and
|unburdened by the trouble of others. We leave those who have been hurt
|to suffer more pain, to spare ourselves the indignity of being
|bothered.
|u/offscalegameboy - 1 hour
|
|I’m sorry but when it comes to people threatening myself, stealing
|from me, endangering my job or blackmailing me then coming back
|saying “I’m sorry I did that I wasn’t in my right mind :/“ then I
|say fuck that. You clearly have issues and I’m sorry you’re dealing
|with that but I did nothing but support you and the thanks I get is
|that kind of shit. Experiencing that makes you though as fuck, I
|don’t take crap like that anymore. If you’re working on yourself,
|good. If you’re abusing someones kindness don’t be surprised if
|nobody wants to be kind to you anymore.
|u/MilesMoralesC-137 - 1 hour
|
|I'm just learning this second one right now with my roommate
|u/tree_people - 14 minutes
|
|I used to make friends with the lonely/weird kid a ton pre-puberty,
|then puberty hit and I quickly learned that they would assume I’m in
|love with them :/
|u/bjorn_ex_machina - 1 hour
|
|A line I use a lot for work, “your trauma/mental health/addiction/etc.
|may not be your fault but it is your responsibility.” People in this
|situation need help but they often need a reminder that no one can fix
|it for them, ans that they are much more likely to get the needed help
|if they can show they are also putting in effort.
|u/IIRedZeroII - 58 minutes
|
|Hey, for a friend, how did you tell them you didn't qant to spend time
|with them in a polite way? Because boy do I need a script. I mean my
|friend... Needs one..
|u/offscalegameboy - 52 minutes
|
|I sought out a quiet moment with them and basically told them “Hey I
|think we are having a misunderstanding. I enjoy talking to you and
|spending time when we are in this setting (we saw each other a lot
|because we went to the same school back in the day). But I already
|have lots of close friends and I’m not looking for other
|friendships. That doesn’t mean you’re not a great person and I bet
|lots of people would love to be your friend, I just think you should
|try it with some other people because I don’t think we would work
|well as friends. I hope you can understand.”
|u/AbrasiveOrange - 5 hours
|
|This has been my experience a lot with online friends. Not all of them
|obviously, but some of them genuinely are the worst. I have always been
|open to making new friends online but so many of them are awful for some
|reason. Some are really creepy to the point you wonder if they're
|registered sex offenders, others are mentally unstable and abusive for
|no reason at all and some are just straight up super autists so they
|fixate on little things you say, have no concept of boundaries and start
|stalking tf out of you. Not worth it a lot of the time.
|u/TacoDinoRawr - 4 hours
|
|Wanna be friends? Cant get much worse XD (or so he thought)
|u/neko - 2 hours
|
|Here's an example of the stalker types
|u/icepickmethod - 1 hour
|
|You are the blonde canvas on which i will paint my future!
|u/Trinity13371337 - 5 hours
|
|This is all I get nowadays. I wonder why nobody likes them, then I
|eventually find out why.
|u/nica_dobro - 2 hours
|
|Whats the reason? I'm that person with no friends and I really wanna
|know why.
|u/loadsofcmen - 1 hour
|
|For me it happened twi times. So the first time it was a girl who
|just got through a breakup und lost all her friends after that.
|Basically, what we found out after a few weeks is, she (tries) to
|sleep with any dude that shows a little emotion, because that is
|apparently the only way for her to comfort someone that is sad. She
|said she doesn't even like sex or the person that much sometimes.
|Second girl didn't like my friends, even tho she wanted to belong in
|the friendgroup. She complained about everything, like everything.
|You say good morning and get to hear about how awful her life is.
|Please just say good morning back first. And she tried to devide our
|group.
|u/Luigistyle - 30 minutes
|
|100% for the second person. People who complain about their lives
|constantly are miserable. They find a negative in everything and
|its such a downer. Its a common personality that ive ran into and
|just turned away from them within a couple weeks
|u/throwawaypassingby01 - 39 minutes
|
|for me, the guy had an extreme kind of black and white thinking: he
|either loved you or hated you, and could change his mind over the
|slightest incident. he also had zero tolerance for discomfort or not
|clicking with someone perfectly right off the bat. and on top of
|this tended to be quite rude and mean when he was insecure. so he
|struggled to attract people and cut off or sabotaged relationships
|he did have. last i heard he had one friend left, but that guy is
|kind of a doormat.
|u/Trinity13371337 - 41 minutes
|
|For me, it's about people constantly begging me for money. Not spare
|change, either. Usually in the triple digits. This is why I can't
|make friends. They'll even threaten to take their own lives!
|u/KillListSucks - 1 hour
|
|Tell us a little about yourself. Do you have any hobbies or
|interests? Do you try to reach out and make friends and are just
|getting shut down?
|u/computersplus - 3 hours
|
|i dont think im a terrible person but I just can't put down the shield
|around me. im too scared to commit to being myself and risk being hurt
|later. i know the reason i dont have many friends and I'm not
|complaining, I choose to be this way.
|u/Spare_Yam2202 - 2 hours
|
|I dont have friends not because I'm a jerk. It's because I'm horribly
|boring and keep a lot of feelings to myself because I was shamed for
|showing any interests and emotions including happiness growing up.
|u/GOatcheesegotmoLD - 2 hours
|
|I'm in the same boat. It is nice knowing I'm not alone.
|u/CokeBuckets - 1 hour
|
|I don't have friends because I don't know what's wrong with me. I try
|my best not to be an asshole. I'm always trying to help and be polite
|to people; I am very friendly (I'm not trying to brag here; I actively
|think and act like this with intention). Yet, when I meet people, we
|talk, laugh, and have a great time, but for whatever reason, when it's
|over, it's over. I never get invited to parties or outings or
|anything. I understand that I shouldn't expect the same from everyone
|I meet, but holy cow, it has been years, and I have yet to meet a
|single person like that. There is this group of people I hang out with
|at the university. We do socialize, etc. Last summer, all these guys
|went to Spain, and not one person even told me about that trip. I was
|the only one who didn't go. Like, what the heck?
|u/ThatIndian15 - 2 hours
|
|Real
|u/warmatron - 2 hours
|
|Same
|u/Weekly_Weather802 - 1 hour
|
|Same. I like to take time to observe the people around me before I
|choose to share anything below surface level about myself. It has
|saved me from so many ill-intended "friendships." I often just find
|myself staying withdrawn for fear of my own personal passions or
|tendencies becoming the next shit talk session. My coworkers, for
|example, are all vapid and cruel. They talk about each other behind
|their backs like snakes, and they're nice to each other when they're
|in the same room. I see this so often in social settings and it
|sickens me that ***so many*** people have no respect for the dignity
|and humanity of the others around them. Why is it so hard for
|people to simply say kind things about others? It's nice to know I'm
|not alone here.
|u/gloirevivre - 1 hour
|
|Same, but I guess for different reasons. Seems like every time I put
|my trust in someone, either I or they fuck it up somehow for some
|stupid reason. I used to try to fix it when that happened, but that
|basically never works. I dunno. There's things about me I have to work
|on - and am - but I just feel like I shouldn't be around people, for
|everyone involved's sake.
|u/liquidpele - 17 minutes
|
|FYI that’s called immaturity. By 30 most people are well past giving
|a shit what others think.
|u/TheEg1322 - 3 hours
|
|Literally me as a new student.
|u/LunaTheSpacedog - 2 hours
|
|I was the new kid many times, and I noticed that the first kid to try
|and befriend you is ALWAYS the school weirdo. Bc you don’t know
|they’re weird yet. I was always nice to them and grateful I didn’t
|have to eat lunch alone the first day, but yeah, when some other kids
|would eventually “rescue” me I was always pretty grateful for that
|too.
|u/Honeybadgermaybe - 2 hours
|
|Im kinda curious now, what did those weirdos do? I hear people speak
|a lot about having "that one guy" in a group but i wonder what they
|mean by it, if you don't mind sharing
|u/LunaTheSpacedog - 1 hour
|
|It wasn’t always one thing, it was just that collectively, they
|were odd. Their jokes weren’t funny, the stuff they were into was
|nothing I’d heard of, they usually dressed a bit messy or weren’t
|super hygienic. No shade, everyone is an awkward teen at least
|once, and I was a bit of a weirdo myself! But there are layers of
|weird and i had to find the other weirdos on my level, so to speak
|u/LunaTheSpacedog - 1 hour
|
|HOWEVER, when you say “that one guy” I actually think of a
|different weirdo — the one that was low key scary bc you could see
|him bringing a weapon to school one day. We def had one of those
|and luckily the goth kids accepted him and he never snapped (that
|I know of)
|u/n122333 - 6 minutes
|
|At my school, he shit his pants and grabbed the shit then rubbed
|it on some dudes yugioh cards. Then fucked a dog. I was friends
|with him at first because he seemed like a genuinely good dude
|until he got upset. Then he didn't know how to handle and and did
|horrific shit. Dudes in prison now.
|u/Morticia_Marie - 39 minutes
|
|>the first kid to try and befriend you is ALWAYS the school weirdo.
|Bc you don’t know they’re weird yet. Can confirm. Was one of the
|school weirdos. Got excited when there was a new kid because "maybe
|this one will like me and be my friend!" Spoiler alert: I didn't
|learn how to make friends until I was in my 40s. Got diagnosed AuDHD
|at age 50.
|u/HIDKWTDIJHJAILI - 30 minutes
|
|So they were nice to you, but you still choose to look down on them
|because other kids think they are weird. This speaks more about you
|than them.
|u/Wanna6ePr0 - 1 hour
|
|That is literally my high school life. I tried befriending a few
|people, but it ALWAYS turns bad. I have a list actually. 1. A
|"weirdo" (considered the weirdo by the class) who turns out to be very
|and I mean very lazy. He now hates me because I was "bossy" to him 2.
|A normal and even popular guy who eventually was revealed to be
|"dating" a 13 year old (he was 16-17 around that time) 3. An autistic
|person who is also very lazy and spends all day scrolling in his phone
|and getting trouble because of it. 4. A friendly and obedient person
|who has a learning disorder To be fair, I can add more but those are
|the worst ones I can think of. And I would say that all of this caused
|me to have somewhat of a reputation of being the "weirdo magnet." High
|school sucks to be honest.
|u/AdPrestigious839 - 2 hours
|
|So this is where you hiding? I called you a 100 times, came by your
|house every day, i know u go to work at 8:42 so i made sure i was there
|before them. Why you ghosting me??? Im such a nice guy? people like you
|are why i have no friends
|u/SebbyHB - 3 hours
|
|I was bullied as a kid. Mainly because I was gay, and I thought for so
|long that people didn't like me because I was awful. It was amazing
|when I finally changed school and was able to make friends easily.
|u/Mean-Ad2673 - 8 hours
|
|I would get him/her a second chair because I can't give a crap
|u/Plastic_Mess_9827 - 4 hours
|
|Trust me I'm not like that 😞
|u/master_1055 - 4 hours
|
|My closest thing to an online friendship that lasted was me discussing
|which charcter would we rather get out skull crushed by there thighs or
|boobs. We had a 3 hour conversation that day and never spoke to each
|other (it was in world of warcraft text whispers)
|u/dumnie - 1 hour
|
|Was it Tyrande or Sylvanas?
|u/rrschch85 - 2 hours
|
|Also has some whacky political beliefs that make up his entire
|personality. Knew a couple guys like this.
|u/whattheshiz97 - 1 hour
|
|Or some that seem normal and then it gets real weird in some way. Like
|having a totally normal discussion on something and then they start on
|some weird conspiracy theory that the Nazis could have won WW2 if the
|war went on for another year… I had to sit there and process that
|comment for a while before correcting him
|u/HIDKWTDIJHJAILI - 34 minutes
|
|So you can't tolerate listening to opinions you disagree with, to
|the point you feel a compulsive need to "correct" them, and you are
|convinced that the other person is the problem. Interesting.
|u/whattheshiz97 - 31 minutes
|
|We were discussing historical facts. The Nazis could not have
|lasted another year or suddenly pull off a win. Giving him the
|actual facts is not a bad thing. Was I supposed to just ignore
|blatantly false information while having a factual discussion?
|u/HIDKWTDIJHJAILI - 28 minutes
|
|No, correcting him is perfectly fine, but it's still strange
|that you were so judgmental about it. People have uninformed
|opinions all the time. It's not a big deal. You don't have to
|label someone as a "weirdo" just because they said something you
|thought was stupid.
|u/whattheshiz97 - 19 minutes
|
|I didn’t label him a weirdo. He was pretty well informed on
|quite a bit but then was wildly off in that regard. It was
|weird that he knew so much only to be way off. Mainly because
|if you know so much then you’d know the other thing would be
|ridiculous. He’s a good dude but that was a weird thing that I
|didn’t anticipate. Never said he was a weirdo
|u/Y_10HK29 - 3 hours
|
|There's a reason why they aren't in the *other* group chat
|u/jenniferivyy - 6 hours
|
|Oh yes..
|u/Laziness2945 - 3 hours
|
|Wait you guys get people trying to befriend you?
|u/Wild-Funny-6089 - 33 minutes
|
|Sometimes, but it’s kinda annoying. Then they stop and that’s when it
|gets kinda sad.
|u/Koichiology - 2 hours
|
|Me making friends with a girl who claims to have no female friends. I
|understand sometimes people just get unlucky with certain bad
|experiences. She was fucking a married man and trying to justify it but
|saying she looks better than the wife.
|u/Morticia_Marie - 33 minutes
|
|Girls who have no female friends don't actually have *any* friends,
|what they have is a bunch of dudes hanging around hoping she'll
|eventually put out and will fuck zone her as soon as they realize she
|won't.
|u/FardoBaggins - 1 hour
|
|This is for people with no charisma. But the trouble comes from those
|with “rizz” as the kids say. they use you and have a couple or more
|groups of friends they take advantage of that cycle out and it takes a
|while for one batch to realize this and slowly peace out until a new
|batch cycles in. I was friends with these people for longer than I
|care to admit. Once I was done, I never looked back.
|u/0Limark0 - 3 hours
|
|I'm that person. And while I wouldn't mind having one, I rarely feel the
|need to socialize and mostly content with only rare interactions. I
|don't know why, but it is seemingly bad.
|u/Opening_Dare_9185 - 2 hours
|
|Depending if they are just bad peeps or realy lost i should think
|u/djc6535 - 1 hour
|
|It’s the same when you try to do something nice for the homeless
|u/Morticia_Marie - 21 minutes
|
|There was a lady who panhandled at a light on my way to work and I
|kinda got to know her a bit from giving her change every time I saw
|her. I went to REI and bought her a whole bunch of winter gear because
|all she had was a hoodie, and when I gave it to her she looked at it
|like I'd handed her a pile of shit and asked "What am I supposed to do
|with this?" I told her it was for the cold weather and she dumped it
|on the ground. She didn't perk up again until I gave her some change
|too. After that I took a different route to work and never saw her
|again.
|u/ZeroExp000 - 1 hour
|
|I know a couple of people like this and ironically enough, I became like
|them, complete social outcasts. The only difference between me and them
|is that people don't like them because they're manipulative and lying
|assholes but for me, I simply got too hurt and now I can't ever put down
|that wall between me and everyone else. I gave way too many 2nd chances
|and got burnt too bad. I chose to never trust anyone ever again and
|it's my choice to never make friends ever again. I've spent too long
|tending to other people and neglected myself for too long.
|u/d0ctorsmileaway - 1 hour
|
|And that's how I ended up in the mental hospital with crippling anxiety
|and depression and lack of trust in other humans
|u/Sacklayblue - 2 hours
|
|I'm that guy with no friends but it's because I'm the one packing up and
|leaving.
|u/farmer_of_hair - 1 hour
|
|While I certainly agree with this currently, as a lot of very hateful
|idiots are pushing away anyone around them that doesn’t worship D.T.,
|there are a LOT of VERY GOOD people who don’t have a single friend for
|no fault of their own. Most people are just terrible people these days,
|many proud of it.
|u/SkeletonOfaGhostt - 1 hour
|
|Had a coworker at a job i was working earlier this year, befriended him
|because nobody paid him any mind. Turned out to be a super clingy
|friend,constantly calling, constantly complaining about his life. I was
|dating a lot at the time and this dude would come up to me in front of
|coworkers and ask stuff like "did her pussy smell good? What did her
|pussy taste like? Did you fucker her in the ass?" To the point where I
|got uncomfortable and chewed him out in front of everyone. I ended up
|romantically involved with another coworkwheand when he found out he
|would constantly text me "where is she at? What's she doing? Are you
|guys in love? Will you marry her? Etc." Soon as I quit that job I
|started to ghost him entirely. Dude complained about not being able to
|have a girlfriend and he wonders why.
|u/vanillahearttt - 3 hours
|
|When you try to be a good friend, but reality hits you like a brick.
|u/Spammer27 - 1 hour
|
|In school I always made friends with the friendless guys in class. They
|thanked me for it by making fun of me in front of others, insulting me,
|trying to bully me. So I joined the bullies instead to bully them like
|everyone else did... Guys, if someone wants to be your ally, don't spit
|on his hand.
|u/East_Cauliflower6840 - 2 hours
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|Me…
|u/NoxPrime - 1 hour
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|I guess that’s why no one will give me a chance
|u/Evstrala - 1 hour
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|I would like friends but I'm terrified I'm one of the people that the
|comments (and the meme) are talking about...
|u/ermine_supreme - 1 hour
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|felt bad for a guy who was a roommate because he was so lonely all the
|time. helped him clean up his space, took him out, tried to introduce
|him to people. he’d just ghost me at these events and keep whining while
|doing nothing to fix his problem. then he went behind my back and tried
|to get with my girlfriend. he failed then tried to physically fight me
|as I moved all my things out the next day.
|u/Omega010100 - 1 hour
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|I have few friends but because I am not sociable, I don't know if I have
|autism but I am very independent and I am not aware of when to get in
|touch with others so that is why I only have one small group of friends
|who know how I am
|u/Monster_Voices - 1 hour
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|I always wondered why this smart funny woman I worked with didn't seam
|to have close friends so I befriended her. Turns out the closer you are
|to her the worse she allows herself to treat you. Polite and nice to
|random people but snappy and rude af to her family and close ones. We
|are no longer friends.
|u/Frequent-Upstairs-50 - 56 minutes
|
|You just described someone I used to know. I wonder if it's some kind
|of personality disorder? Anyway, it was the worst, bc no one would
|believe me how awful of a person she was, bc they only saw her "nice"
|side. I eventually cut her out of my life, but she was one of the
|worst people I've ever known.
|u/Kind_Pomegranate4877 - 1 hour
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|Me trying with my husbands cousin who no one likes only for her to
|repeatedly shout she hates hates hates children. We’re the only couple
|with kids in the family…
|u/AyDylo - 33 minutes
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|I can relate. I have a coworker who is always alone, and you can tell
|he's socially awkward and a bit autistic. I can be as well, and I am the
|type of person that doesnt want anyone to feel excluded so I talked to
|him for a few days at the beginning of the shift. So yeah after a few
|days he got more comfortable with me and he talked about black people
|like they were dirt. (We're both white.) I haven't talked to him since
|other than a hi or nod as I walk by lol. I kinda feel bad for him, but
|I can't hang around that.
|u/yamrajkabhainsa - 1 hour
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|Thanks for leaving us alone, nothing new.
|u/MyLifeInLies - 1 hour
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|I am the person with no friends… I try to warn new people that want to
|be my friend, but it usually takes them a few months to get it.
|u/Great-TeacherOnizuka - 1 hour
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|Wanna become friends?
|u/MyLifeInLies - 21 minutes
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|Sure, but don’t say I didn’t warn you
|u/PeterAmaranth - 1 hour
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|Going back to try again after Realising there autistic and that's why
|there the way they are
|u/LovableeJessica03 - 1 hour
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|real, but a friend should be a friend irrespective of their short
|comings
|u/milkdimension - 1 hour
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|Um, no.
|u/Boring-Run-2202 - 2 hours
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|Why does this happen quite often
|u/MajorTacoStudios - 2 hours
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|XD so true sadly
|u/That_One_Guy37_2 - 1 hour
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|She got in a relationship, and second day she tried to accuse him of
|blackmailing her into sending him nude pictures
|u/Skitt1eb4lls - 1 hour
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|🫥
|u/Western-Tip-2092 - 1 hour
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|Honestly it depends on the reason since sth that people will find bad,i
|could not mind it as much. Their are a lot of reasons why people might
|want to avoid someone and not all of them are valid.
|u/WildMinimum2202 - 1 hour
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|This is so true!
|u/Trick_Dickler - 1 hour
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|Used to always tell people in the military when they’re transferring to
|a new base, watch out for the people who go super hard to try and
|immediately befriend you when you get there, very rarely they’re just a
|super nice person, but 99% of the time they’re glomming onto you because
|everyone there can’t stand them and they’re taking advantage of you not
|knowing that yet.
|u/lunafawks - 1 hour
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|It’s really frustrating for someone who has little to no self awareness
|and just can’t make any real friends. I used to “rescue” those kinda
|people and bring them around my other friends but I’ve learned now that
|it’s healthier for both sides if I’m just nice to people like that, but
|keep them at arms length and establish boundaries early on. Out of
|maybe 50-60 people I’ve met like that in life, only 2 ended up being
|long term good friends after they opened up and got comfortable around
|us, but the others were just odd and unhealthy
|u/whattheshiz97 - 1 hour
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|Sometimes it’s not that they are douchebags, but that they are weird.
|Like really really weird. Like there are some screws loose and you don’t
|know what ones they are. You try to be nice but man it’s always just an
|awkward experience
|u/tone_bone - 1 hour
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|I used to have this old co-worker jerry. He should have retired years
|ago and a life story that you would almost feel sorry about if he wasn't
|such a giant ass Biscuit.
|u/Lazy42069_ - 1 hour
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|When I tried talking to people they rarely found time for me, and now
|that I don’t talk anymore they wonder why. It’s strange really, but I’d
|advise people to cherish solitude and not resign themselves to
|isolation. Some people just enjoy their own company and hobbies more
|than socialising but that doesn’t always mean that they are bad people.
|As a wise man once said: Be curious, not judgemental.
|u/Major_Option_8794 - 53 minutes
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|True
|u/MachKeinDramaLlama - 42 minutes
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|Yep, I’m middle aged and this has been my experience with no exceptions.
|It’s actually not that difficult to find friends, if you are open minded
|and not an ass. Turns out that some people don’t even know what they are
|doing wrong and/or just don’t even care enough to make an effort. There
|is nothing to be done about this. You can’t help someone who doesn’t
|even want to change.
|u/Flora_of_Noumena - 37 minutes
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|Literally me
|u/thegabster2000 - 35 minutes
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|Damn, this hurts. There was a time in my life when I switched schools
|and I made one friend but she moved away because it was too expensive
|where we live (a very common experience). After she moved, I struggled
|so hard to get people to like me. After that experience, I became a shut
|in and put up walls but my social life did improve as the years went on.
|Sometimes people don't like you for dumb reasons.
|u/mn25dNx77B - 29 minutes
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|I really don't know where to meet intelligent friends who aren't pompous
|assholes
|u/Lon3Cat - 28 minutes
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|This wouldn't apply to me, right? Right...?
|u/canwuion - 27 minutes
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|Sometimes the mystery solves itself
|u/SnipFred - 21 minutes
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|As someone with no friends idk what I did wrong but fuck me I guess
|u/Unajustable_Justice - 14 minutes
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|Learned this the hard way myself
|u/avgf1fan - 11 minutes
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|this meme is bout me and i dont like it
|u/SterlingJacq - 11 minutes
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|I am he
|u/ice_slayer69 - 5 minutes
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|Im the one with no friends, lol. I remember another tweet that says,
|"im the kid you hang out with forst year pf school then you dump for
|decent human beings" or something like that. Yeah im that kid. I
|regret nothing though.
|u/OldPernilongo - 21 seconds
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|Well there are some jewels hidden in the trash sometimes... They are
|rare though... Maybe someone is just passing through a bad phase in
|their lives and just need someone to flourish.
|u/A_Random_Latvian - 1 hour
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|Yeah, the only way i can get 'friends' is if i act dumb and clueless on
|most things and not speak much
|u/xAfterBirthx - 1 hour
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|I think this sentence shows why you can’t make a friend. It is because
|you think you are smarter than everyone else not because you are.
|u/Proof_Strawberry_464 - 1 hour
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|Absolutely. My family is littered with very smart people. The ones
|who go around acting like they're smarter than everyone have sad,
|lonely lives because they're insufferable, not because they're
|smart.
|u/BajaBlyat - 1 hour
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|i kind of read that as "I can't say what I really think so I act
|like I don't really think anything."
|u/A_Random_Latvian - 1 hour
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|No, it's because i have a higher chance to make a friend if i act
|dumb. I'm average at best.
|u/Odd_Introvert42069 - 1 hour
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|Me with no friends: 🙂
|u/evergreendotapp - 29 minutes
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|Usually it's because they're just inherently low value. Middle aged
|dudes with high voices, very sedentary homebody lifestyle with no
|accomplishments, using internet speak in real life, stuff like that
|tends to put off anyone regardless of social outlook and will just find
|excuses to not invite you anywhere. Recently had a bastketball watch
|party where one of my friends brought some five-foot tall bald
|undercooked preemie-looking fella and he gave off such sad wallflower
|energy that everyone just kinda avoided talking to him, lol. Told my
|friend not to bring him over again. He didn't smell bad, didn't talk
|religion or politics; he was just...very underwhelming and milquetoast.
|I try to teach the kids I coach in disc golf not to wallow into their
|own insulated plastic bubbles so much so they don't end up like this
|dude.
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