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To everyone who felt hopeless and completely turned their life around:
How did you do it?
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|u/Sigbac - 18 hours
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|Started by cleaning. Raising my standards, especially for myself.
|Stopped listening to my excuses and realized all they will be is
|excuses. Stopped accepting certain behavior, starting with myself.
|Stopped trying to control anyone else, stopped thinking of myself as a
|victim.
|u/figgednewtonian - 18 hours
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|This is a hell of lot harder than it sounds. Kudos.
|u/VoraxUmbra1 - 6 hours
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|He left out the most important part: Daddys money.
|u/ScaryJelly - 5 hours
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|You don’t need daddy’s money to do any of that. You do need
|positivity, seems you might be lacking.
|u/VoraxUmbra1 - 4 hours
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|Keep telling yourself that.
|u/mrsparker22 - 17 hours
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|Hell yes. It is very hard to do but being honest with oneself is
|where it begins. I was doing so much stupid shit, thinking the world
|was against me. I heard some advice or read it that when life is too
|much to simplify. So that's what I did. I stopped partying as much.
|Became more of a professional at work. I started moving up, getting
|better job offers etc. I moved out of state to work on my career in
|the number 1 area for my biz. It was hard as shit. Everytime I
|thought I was about to climb up the wall and had my fingers on top of
|the roof, life would stomp on my fingers and I would fall. I had
|fierce claws though. I dug them in and I didn't give up. I texted a
|friend who ignored my question and offered a gig. It was perfect and
|helped me break even. From there it just went up. I'm down again, was
|used and abused by a supposed friend I took in to help. My bf left me
|last Friday, all of this hell occurred during my Dads death. I didn't
|even get the support from my friend and boyfriend I needed but it was
|a distraction if anything. It's been the hardest 4 years of my life
|starting with the hardest job I've ever had and then a divorce then
|the decline and death of my Dad. So I'm working on that upward climb.
|My great job, regaining my self-esteem and self worth slowly and
|having my family nearby not to mention my sweet bears (2 dogs and
|cat) it's getting better. One of these days I'll be good to go. I
|won't give up though. Above all, prayer has been something that
|helps. It's all I have sometimes and I'm glad to have it.
|u/w0ke_brrr_4444 - 5 hours
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|Ayyyy congrats. Sounds like quite a battle
|u/Sigbac - 5 hours
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|Haha thank you. It's just a really roundabout way to say I started
|taking/accepting responsibility
|u/Different_Ad_7671 - 7 hours
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|Wish my husband would do this. I’m so drained mentally and dk what to
|do. It’s just rough.
|u/Sigbac - 5 hours
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|I'm sorryfor whatever you're going through Your comment is
|completely missing what I'm saying however. Let me clairify,
|instead of wishing to change your husband, focus on yourself and
|what you can control. You can't control other people but you can
|control yourself. I hipe in the future things become less rough for
|you 🫶 Edit can't
|u/MusicComfortable9285 - 18 hours
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|I hit rock bottom and realized I couldn’t keep living the same way. I
|started small—setting tiny goals, reaching out for support, and cutting
|out toxic influences. It wasn’t overnight, but every little step added
|up to a completely new life. + wine also :)
|u/Fuzzy-Stress5994 - 17 hours
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|Stop comparing yourself to others and live your life. Have goals and
|aim for that.both friends and girlfriend is something you can get at
|any age. Yea I wasted my Youth with being depressed, alone and sad.
|But thats the past. All i do now is for future me.
|u/MirameBonito - 11 hours
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|Thank you for sharing this
|u/Valnaire - 11 hours
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|I cannot stress the handicap negative influences can add to your
|life. Sometimes it's better to just ditch entire friend groups, even
|if there are people who did nothing wrong, just to separate yourself
|from those influences.
|u/Flameseeker3000 - 18 hours
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|thank you for sharing.
|u/Tall-Payment-5135 - 17 hours
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|That’s incredible. It takes so much strength to turn things around
|like that.
|u/Common-Awareness5475 - 15 hours
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|Yes rock bottom happened to me also and made me realise things had to
|change!
|u/shifty1032231 - 15 hours
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|Thanks. I needed to read this today.
|u/trougee - 12 hours
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|What kind of goals did you set? Could you give an example?
|u/LilaTrail99 - 12 hours
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|beautiful im currently in rehab for decisions of past i am now sober
|for nearly 3 months have my moments but leaning into Faith and having
|the love of others have helped me so much, and thank your for share
|your story it was very brave of you
|u/MoneyTruth9364 - 18 hours
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|Instead of trying to resist the negative emotions of the experience, I
|tried to let it feel, experience it, and suddenly it turns into "can't
|let this feeling happen to me again." Negative emotions are a big
|motivator of change, so don't just look for ways to escape from it for
|a while, try to navigate it.
|u/Artistic-Minimum-558 - 17 hours
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|Yeah, it’s tough, but those feelings can really push you to change if
|you face them head-on.
|u/MoneyTruth9364 - 16 hours
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|Kinda like the Gohan Super Saiyan 2. He was only able to go that
|ballistic because of those intense negative emotions, and then
|decided that "enough's enough."
|u/tatkat - 18 hours
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|The damn Army. I had no choices left. I was 23 and not doing well. Lost
|my job, car broke down, bf broke up with me, living in my aunts attic.
|My mom died when I was 18 and I just went off the rails. Decided to
|join the damn Army. Didn’t want to. I stayed in 5 years, and am still
|doing the career they taught me. Surgical Tech, 20 years later.
|u/MidwestAmMan - 17 hours
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|Damn good job!
|u/SayNoToStim - 13 hours
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|Similar story for me. I was 24, super overweight, and overall I was
|pretty much a loser. Lost about 100 pounds, went into the Army, hated
|the hell out of it, but it also used it to stop being a useless sack
|of crap. I do IT work now and do OK for myself. I always say that the
|Army is both the best and the worst decision I've ever made.
|u/ModernT1mes - 15 hours
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|People give the military a bad rap, but it has allowed people to claw
|out of poverty and bad places. Yea, I know putting your life at risk
|for the duration of a contract isn't ideal, but it's a risk a lot of
|people are willing to make for the experience, connections, and free
|college.
|u/ActConstant6804 - 14 hours
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|I grew up thinking military = war = bad, which isn’t totally wrong
|but my fiancé is in the army and I respect the sacrifice. It gave
|him the VA loan, and now we live in a house. Friend joined the
|coast guard and got out of shithole hometown, and got married
|overseas, and has a career now. Another friend joined the Air Force
|and got his law degree. I found out my white uncle worked in the
|Air Force (I think?) and sponsored my family from SEA. I’m thankful
|for our military. Either Corporate America or Government America
|will chew up and spit you out.
|u/ohlookahipster - 14 hours
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|And the pension is dope if you stick it out long enough. My dad
|was an O in the Army and while it sucked growing up (literally
|missing every major holiday), the pension is insane. And
|everyone drools over his knowledge so he’s had zero issues
|staying employed as a civilian.
|u/ElderberryExternal99 - 16 hours
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|Thank you for your service!
|u/ryneku - 10 hours
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|I've been considering joining the military...I'm 32 though. My life
|is a fucking mess, though. I think 32 is the cut off so I have to
|make my decision soon.
|u/tatkat - 8 hours
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|My life was, too. I kinda needed it.
|u/ryneku - 8 hours
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|I love how you say "The Damn Army". Lmao, I'm gonna join the
|damn military too, not sure which branch yet but I think I'm
|ready now. My mom died when I was 21, never knew my father and
|I'm an only child. I'm a literal bastard. After that, my life
|went off the rails as well. I stopped caring, though I randomly
|started caring again after nearly a decade of severe deep
|depression but it's really hard to 'catch up' (I'm sure you can
|understand exactly what I mean here).
|u/VnotV - 29 minutes
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|It sounds like you've already made your decision
|u/Carrera_996 - 7 hours
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|Navy. Put that GI Bill on a CS degree, then an MS in Infosec.
|u/AdmirableVolume7 - 17 hours
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|I took my last drink of alcohol 2,079 days ago.
|u/HeavenHasTrampolines - 13 hours
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|Good start. 2130 here ✊
|u/el_homeros - 1 hour
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|You're doing a great job.
|u/Specific-Fudge-7222 - 18 hours
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|i moved away from the people who made me feel that way
|u/Bea_Evil - 16 hours
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|Same, and although I do not regret it, I haven’t been able to make
|new friends.
|u/Carrdoooo - 16 hours
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|Same. But I have hope I can meet new and better friends than the
|previous ones.
|u/Specific-Fudge-7222 - 15 hours
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|it’s okay! it takes time and it’ll happen naturally and eventually
|u/VnotV - 27 minutes
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|Me neither. People at work seem to enjoy my company but we're all
|being paid decently to cooperate.
|u/Shankioo - 18 hours
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|stopped caring about things I can't control and put all my energy into
|the things I can. it sounds hard, but there's actually a lot you can
|control and that doesn't leave much room for the other shit
|u/Delicious_Web - 17 hours
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|When I was a teenager I was homeless. A lot of places wouldn't hire me
|because I had no experience or interview clothes. I went to the board
|of education and begged the HR lady to give me a chance at any job. I
|told her I'd scrub the school with a toothbrush if they paid me. They
|made me a general sub for clerical. I took a call for one of the "bad
|neighborhood" schools that some others turned down. Walked across town
|to get there every day do I had to start walking at 4:30 am to be on
|time. I wore dress clothes from a church mission that were way too big
|but I did my best. After four months they gave me a long-term
|position. Then a permanent one with benefits. I saved up enough for an
|apartment (finding a landlord okay with renting to an 18 year old
|homeless girl was hard) and started college. I haven't been homeless a
|day since in the last 15 years. I even have a house now.
|u/fancybumlove - 12 hours
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|That's an incredible story! I'm really happy to hear you are doing
|better now. Your story is an inspiration to anyone who feels hopeless
|and down. You managed to pull yourself up from a very difficult
|position and transform in to the woman you are today.
|u/UpsetDog5305 - 3 hours
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|Wow! This is a very touching story and I am really happy for you.
|u/VnotV - 26 minutes
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|I'm proud of you stranger, thank you for sharing this story.
|u/diegojones4 - 18 hours
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|Therapy, meds, and time
|u/Honest-Western1042 - 17 hours
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|Same.
|u/diegojones4 - 16 hours
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|Glad you emerged from that hell.
|u/Honest-Western1042 - 16 hours
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|You too.
|u/Ambitious_Shine_1555 - 18 hours
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|Rock bottom makes a solid foundation. I started with small wins like
|drinking water instead of crying in it and kept building from there.
|u/Chikapaw - 18 hours
|
|when I hit rock bottom after years of untreated depression and anxiety,
|I went: " I just want to die, I just want to die," and then though...
|"Do I really? do I really want to die?"You want to miss out on life and
|the life of those tou love?" And I thought... "I mean... no.. I just
|want this pain to end, I want this suffering to be over" " Ah! well,
|that's different. " " Yeah, i don't want to be in pain anymore... I
|actually... just want to live. " " Oh! so you want to live" " i want
|to live without pain," " Actually... if possible... I would like to
|actually thrive" "So you want to live and thrive?" "Yes! I want to
|live! I want to thrive!" "ok then, let's do whatever it takes to get
|there," that was the moment my mindset changed, and got determined to
|put my all into getting myselft out of there. It wasn't easy, but I was
|lucky to have support. when I was younger I didn't want to have
|anything to do with therapist and meds but I went ahead with them, had
|to change them a couple times but at the end it all went great and now
|I'm doing pretty awesome. so I'd say... first, be thoughtful and
|think, what is it that you really really really really want? and think
|about all the options and how to get there, ask for help when you need
|it, no shame in that. surround yourself with people that support you,
|can be even just one person, even if it's just the therapist. be
|patient and be aware change takes lots of work and time. study and
|learn about the issue you are dealing g with, if there are more people
|that dealt with that and how they managed, and if that would work for
|you or you can try something different, do get to know yourself to see
|what could work for you and if there's something about you you need to
|work on to change and be able to get there, and most of all: be kind to
|you!! don't treat yourself like your own bullied and abuser !
|u/ShadeLom - 16 hours
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|made a list of what I wanted to change and tackled one thing at a time.
|Started exercising, eating better, and found hobbies that made me
|happy. It wasn't easy, but focusing on small wins kept me going.
|Surrounding myself with positive people helped a lot too
|u/Bea_Evil - 16 hours
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|I wish so badly that I could ask for help, I’m proud of you 💜
|u/Raccoon_Stranger - 18 hours
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|I can only get better, stay the same, or get worse. Only one of those
|options I liked.
|u/Sharp-Program-9477 - 18 hours
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|Stopped drinking, smoking weed, hanging out/dating with lousy people.
|u/BizzyTwirl - 17 hours
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| My son died of drug overdose (2019). He had just gotten a kitten. I
|brought her home.I tell everyone the cat saved my life.
|u/NightArcane - 15 hours
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|focused on the basics: getting enough sleep, eating better, and moving
|my body. It was hard at first, but slowly I felt more in control.
|Surrounding myself with supportive people made a huge difference too.
|Small changes added up over time and shifted everything for me.
|u/Loveforcookies - 18 hours
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|If any one of you motherfuckers says "drink water and do yoga"
|u/VnotV - 25 minutes
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|Drink yoga and do water
|u/spacesaver2 - 17 hours
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|In the midst of depression/ anxiety/ PTSD, every day I wanted to quit
|and die. I’d make “to do lists” as simple as wake up, brush teeth, make
|bed etc. with little cheers on the side “no need to cry!” “You can do
|it” I’d try to take it hour by hour. I let myself be sad and feel the
|pain- not mask it with drugs and alcohol. Tried to get outside every
|day for walks, control the things I could and let go of those I
|couldn’t. Started seeing a therapist. Over 2 years later I finally feel
|like myself again and am the happiest I’ve ever been. Keep on fighting
|u/bloomxbelle - 15 hours
|
|Sorry this is such a long read. I thought maybe some people could
|benefit. Don't give up hope, because really if you do work hard you can
|make it. I started over at 46. I decided I was going to re-educate
|into a different career. It actually worked out a lot better for me
|that I was divorced and had no relationship to worry about or distract
|me. It also didn't hurt that because my ex basically bankrupted me, I
|moved back in with my parents at 46 and paid no rent while I helped to
|care for my paraplegic elderly mother. Yes, it was a hit to my ego, but
|I took comfort in the fact I was not a basement dweller, but rather had
|a noble cause in keeping my parents out of a nursing home. I had a
|great job with decent pay as a video editor, which I had held for about
|12 years. I survived many rounds of mergers and acquisitions, but the
|last one got me when they sold off the entire division where I worked,
|and the new company fired half the workforce on the first day. I
|realized I was probably not going to get another job making what I had
|been making, because I had cultivated my position into something
|different than the norm. I gave myself a month of submitting
|applications, after which I had made up my mind I was going to do
|something different. I took my severance pay and invested it into
|getting educated in a different career. I did a little research to
|determine what were the broad growth industries and which fit my prior
|experience and interests the best. For me it was medical as opposed to
|high tech or finance. To me, high tech was too steep a learning curve,
|finance was a snooze, but medical fit with helping my mother. I thought
|about a few things... certain things like x-ray techs or respiratory
|therapists only needed a 2-yr degree, but nursing won out because of
|the earning potential and employability. I lucked out in finding an
|accelerated program at my alma mater that only took 18 months for a BSN
|because I already had a BA -- although I did have to take some
|prerequisites while waiting for my cohort to start. From there after
|some intense work and study, living on savings and an entry-level CNA
|job, I was a working nurse within about 2 years from making the choice
|to switch careers. That got me into a $30/hr job, and I continued on in
|graduate school which got paid for by my employer (also heavily
|researched and planned in advance). Now I have a doctoral degree and
|make six figures a year. I am about 10 years from when I lost my video
|editor job. I could have been at this point 2 years sooner with a
|master's instead of doctorate, but I put in the extra work to have the
|better degree because I wanted the absolute best pull in the workforce.
|When considering a new career, there was a particular technique I used
|which I found to be helpful. I looked at the help wanted ads for the
|career I was thinking of getting into. I got a sense of whether good
|jobs were available, and what employers were asking for in candidates.
|It's much better to figure this out and then go get those credentials
|than to realize later you're not qualified for the jobs you want. It
|also enables you to research ahead of time whether it's worth it to
|work towards a certain goal after knowing all the angles. The great
|thing about growing industries, and medical in particular, is that you
|may not even have to deal directly with the specifics (e.g. patient
|care). There are support roles to be filled around the periphery
|because of the volume of business. In medical, there are all sorts of
|people who admit patients, do billing, do customer service or clerical
|work for industries that make medical supplies or pharmaceuticals, etc.
|Pharmaceutical sales rep can be a very lucrative job and is more akin
|to sales than medicine. I'm not sure what analogues there are in
|finance or high tech, but sales has a way of intersecting with any
|capital industry by default. It's simple algebra that people who sell
|very expensive things probably make more commission than people who
|sell a lot of cheap things. Anyway, this is way too long for most
|people to read. Just consider, if you're going to start over again
|anyway, why not go big? It's a way to live out what everyone says, "If
|I knew then what I know now."
|u/VnotV - 21 minutes
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|why not go big indeed!
|u/CatereDragon - 17 hours
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|I just started by forgiving myself and taking it one small step at a
|time—feels like a lifetime ago now.
|u/helenatheresa - 17 hours
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|Found the courage to leave my abusive husband
|u/JuiceBox1 - 18 hours
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|At first it was the mindset that I was doing it for myself, I deserved
|to be happy, and it was my job to get there. But then, when I started
|to falter, it was no longer me doing it for myself, it became me doing
|it for all the people in my life who helped me, who loved me, who just
|wanted me to be happy. It was that final push that did it.
|u/la_throwaway_2451245 - 18 hours
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|Started small, set achievable goals, and surrounded myself with
|positive influences. It helped a lot.
|u/jou1993b - 18 hours
|
|Well i moved to another country it was difficult at first but I managed
|to be in a better position now,but what i understood from moving is
|that i left behind a toxic environment, people who degrade me or my
|thoughts,when i was at the place i couldn't understand that it was
|toxic because i didn't saw a different environment.now i am not perfect
|but i feel like i can breathe
|u/FloxedByTheFeds - 16 hours
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|Stopped caring. Everyone. Everything. My fuck-bucket ran dry and I
|stopped giving any. People at work being shitty? Fuck them. They're
|nobody to me. Do your work, I'll do mine. You don't like how
|"aggressive" I sound even though Bob types the same way? That's a "you
|problem", go talk to a therapist. Family being shitty? Fuck them. They
|don't pay my bills nor do they have to live my life. People messaging
|for hours endlessly implying they want a monetary handout for this or
|that but never actually saying it and continually dropping hints that
|they want you to finance whatever (soft begging)? Fuck it. Ask me or
|shut up--you're draining my energy with the endless beating around the
|bush. I've finally come to terms with the fact that there is no Karma.
|The nasty will never be punished. I will never be rewarded for hard
|work. So why kill myself doing so. Nobody else is going to take care of
|me, so I have to do it myself. I am my #1 priority.
|u/Pleasant-Anybody-777 - 18 hours
|
|I knew that I could either continue down the path of ruination that I
|was on, eventually leading to an early death (either by suicide or poor
|health) and an even poorer example for my kids on how to live, or I
|could get back to living and feeling good. Diet changes, exercising,
|reading, thinking, and having the energy and wherewithal to play with
|my kids and to live in the moment. It sucked for the first 3 weeks, but
|once you see both positive changes in your body and mental state, you
|become a snowball rolling down the hill and now veering off this path
|seems impossible to do. Anyway, things aren’t perfect and I have no
|illusion to such thoughts, but I now envision a lengthy life and
|healthy relationships with my family as I age, which also keeps me
|going.
|u/Pitiful_Winner2669 - 17 hours
|
|Rehab+therapy. Born into a wealthy family, found drugs, loved them.
|Tried giving up on life, but booked myself into rehab voluntarily as
|one last attempt to get my life back together. Folks: rehab was
|BRUTAL. Withdrawals, mostly from alcohol, is nightmare fuel on
|steroids. But professionals working there were some of the greatest
|people to walk this earth. I have never seen such compassion wrapped in
|knowledge. Plus, I made a lot of friends. Guys and gals who were so
|brutally honest - and whether they were there voluntarily or not - I
|made friends with the ones who just wanted to get away from this junk
|life. Clean, happily married, successful without mom and dad's money.
|Happy, healthy. Edit: my roommate had an ankle bracelet and set off
|the fire alarm twice smoking cigarettes in our room lol. But that homie
|took care of me through that hellish period. He got my snacks from my
|safe and helped break up stuff like crackers, chocolate bars so I could
|just get something down. Mopped and cleaned for me when I was writhing
|in sweat. Called the nurses for me, didn't talk much, but he was an
|absolute soldier when it came to caring for a stranger in the other
|bed.
|u/Immediate_Detail_709 - 18 hours
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|Went to law school
|u/Ojy - 18 hours
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|I joined the British Army.
|u/stuugie - 17 hours
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|I realized if I really want to live, I need to try
|u/Murky-Ad-3486 - 16 hours
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|(Trigger Warning) The day I almost considered ending it all. I had
|inflicted the deepest scratches on my thighs. I was crying in bed at
|2am just letting the scratches sting and bleed minorly. My friend had
|texted me that night at 2am. My phone illuminated the entire room. I
|picked it up and she said: "Hey are you able to talk right now?". She
|talked to me about how she ran from her boyfriend, as he was being
|verbally and now physically abusive. She came to me to feel better. And
|thats when I opened up. Trauma to Trauma we both opened up. I stopped
|hurting myself aftet that day and got therapy. I'm in a much better
|spot now and we are even closer friends now.
|u/MPD1987 - 14 hours
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|My fiancé unalived himself after I found out he had had an affair &
|that the woman was about to give birth. I also found out that while she
|was pregnant, he beat her so badly that he gave her a TBI. That was
|August 2016. In January 2017, I decided that if I was going to survive
|this, I had to find something to focus my mind on other than the grief
|and sadness. So I went back to school for my masters degree and threw
|myself into studying. I had been working at a call center & didn’t have
|a car at that time. I got a car, got a better job (one in my field of
|study), graduated in 2021, was offered a job overseas in 2022, and here
|I am today. I turned my life around because I just absolutely refused
|to let grief kill me. There have been several things that have happened
|since I graduated, which have threatened to make me give up, such as a
|broken engagement in 2020, and the death of my mother in 2022. Not sure
|if it’s because I’m so stubborn or what, but I will never give up.
|u/rageinthecage666 - 18 hours
|
|In the middle of breaking destructive habits, 3 weeks in: It still
|feels like everything kind of sucks (it does) but I just know that
|falling back into those habits will make me feel worse in the long run.
|The hopelessness I feel is kind of motivating me to keep on and a clear
|sign that I want to change. I try to tell myself that even though I
|changed my habits and set goals that it could take some time to really
|see results, playing the long game instead of instant gratification.
|u/Wittystave - 18 hours
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|I decided to stop comparing myself to my brother and try to focus on
|the improvable.
|u/chefboyarde30 - 18 hours
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|Time.
|u/Constant-Interview48 - 18 hours
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|Quit drinking
|u/AseqirOpenq - 17 hours
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|I started with small changes, let go of perfection, and surrounded
|myself with supportive people.
|u/Possum7358 - 17 hours
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|It's all just 1 day at a time. Whether it's was good or bad, it was
|just 1 day that had nothing to do with the others. I'd apply for jobs,
|if I got rejected it was just that day that I got rejected, there will
|be a day I will get the job, it just wasn't today. After things started
|getting better, I'd put the effort to make my day a good day.
|u/Different-Front4456 - 17 hours
|
|I won't go into the details, because none of them really matter, but I
|was majorly depressed about 6 or so years ago. I really focused on
|changing my mindset to being grateful for how wonderful my life really
|is. I have a beautiful marriage, 3 incredible, healthy children, a warm
|home with plenty of food and my family doesn't need or want for
|anything. Since this drastic shift, I haven't struggled with feelings
|of hopelessness, a desire to die, or really any negative thoughts like
|those since. Of course I still have bad days because I am human, but my
|life is way too great to feel so crummy.
|u/VnotV - 12 minutes
|
|I think the jewel in there is that you decided to walk to the edge
|and look down. Many of us make that same pilgrimage in one way or
|another, and I like to think that most of us come back with renewed
|focus.
|u/Kind-Maintenance-787 - 18 hours
|
|After losing everything and becoming homeless I put my past behind me
|set goals and got all the toxic negative people out of my life if you
|want to know where you'll be in a couple years look at the crowd you
|surround yourself with and that's what you'll become. I had to let go
|hit rock bottom and realize the only person I have is me and knowing
|that made me quit the cycle of addiction and self destruction my life
|isn't perfect but believing in myself and ghosting others have really
|started the change I need and since I've been doing that I've been
|being blessed.
|u/HippoPebo - 17 hours
|
|I started seeing the world in other people’s eyes. I realized how many
|people had such scary days from dawn to dusk. Massive debt, rent out of
|their reach, no activity to help distract or escape even for a small
|bit. I realized I was luckier than I let myself believe. I was
|thankful I had a roof over my head. Stomach full more often than not.
|I’m not well off, but I’m not in crippling debt. I love video games and
|can find a way to not have to be sad, even if for a little while. You
|have to discover who you are. If you don’t know who you are, discover
|who you want to be. You can be the hero that you need to be. You
|aren’t alone. If you feel like you don’t have anyone, you have me. Feel
|free to pm me and remind me why you are (so I’m not like “oh look more
|bots”).
|u/Taupe88 - 17 hours
|
|I became enlightened to and aware of something which had caused me to
|go into a period of serious despair. Couldn’t work, cut off family,
|friends left me behind. I wallowed in that place as I saw no way
|through and couldn’t fix it. As time passed and life continued its on
|fire🔥rolling downhill destruction of my life I came to a point of
|decision. Do it or not. But it’s time. I decided simply to live. I
|would not allow this to kill me. So I dug my heels in, and just lived.
|Grit, Resilience, Toughness, Stubborn. and my general FU attitude. It
|was the hardest time of my life. 1999-2003.
|u/Nrf-War-728 - 17 hours
|
|i found someone who accepts, loves, and encourages me unconditionally
|exactly as i am, after being dimmed for a long time, and i blossomed.
|u/VehaMeursault - 10 hours
|
|1. Be honest to yourself about what you want and what you don’t. 2.
|Map a route towards what you want. 3. Take the steps you mapped. 4.
|Evaluate if steps indeed got you closer to what you want. 5. If yes,
|continue; if no, reevaluate map. And I’ll happily die on this hill:
|9 out of 10 people are not capable of being honest to themselves, and
|are often somehow dead certain that they are. I used to be one of them,
|and once I understood this, it still took over a decade to start
|_living_ what I had learned. We are biologically heavily predisposed
|to convince ourselves of lies just to stay comfortable. “I’ll do it
|tomorrow”, “it’s just one cookie”, and “I don’t have to write it down
|to remember” are all bullshit stories we tell ourselves to justify not
|doing step 3, when the truth is that if you’re not doing step 3, you’re
|probably already lying to yourself at step 1. I’ll only believe that
|you want to get fit if I see you in a gym. Anything else is just make
|believe. Don’t tell me, show me.
|u/Redditress428 - 18 hours
|
|sgi-usa
|u/wizrow - 18 hours
|
|Dmt
|u/En-TitY_ - 15 hours
|
|Was heavily suicidal at one point and had planned everything, only
|reason I didn't was I realised the effect it would have on my brother.
|I used that thought to drag my living corpse little by little out of
|depression. Figured I had nothing left to lose so I took a gamble on a
|temporary job that might, *just might,* keep me permanently. It led to
|a better job, a car and some hefty savings. Getting my teeth fixed
|next year. I'm still getting there and there are days I wish a bus
|would just hit me, but I'm better.
|u/Thisismyusername89 - 15 hours
|
|Realized we are responsible for our own happiness. It’s now advice I
|give to anyone that asks about being happy. Before that, I guess I
|watched too many princess movies and thought I needed a man/partner to
|‘save me’ and make my life happy….as if it’s anyone’s responsibility to
|make me happy…but again, Disney princess movies. Then my SO broke my
|heart like no one else ever had, and I realized I was so wrong. I
|shifted my brain to focus on school (college at that time), myself, my
|true friends, my hobbies, my family, and plan my future so I would
|never have to depend on anyone. Little by little bit by bit it got
|better. I still hit some shit moments along the way, but I didn’t let
|them defeat me. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been at 53, and married to a
|man who is very good to me, and have raised two kind, caring, smart
|kids who are thriving in college. But I tell them too…”you are
|responsible for your own happiness. It’s not going to knock on your
|door. Go make it happen!! There will be mistakes but that’s ok, we
|actually do learn from our mistakes..it’s not just something old people
|say. Even if you’re in a job that isn’t quite your fit, do it great! It
|might be able to afford you doing a hobby you love. It might be the
|stepping stone you need to move into a better job. No job was ever
|beneath me…and it should be beneath you. Yeup I did everything from
|scrubbing toilets to working in a group home where a kid that was
|bigger than me, kicked my ass lol. All that lead me to a career as a
|teacher that I absolutely LOVED!!” Good luck everyone. And I don’t
|give a fuck what anyone says about how stupid it is, I smile all the
|time, so smile. Smiling really does make you feel better and it’s such
|a thrill to see someone smile back 😄
|u/HighPitchedHegemony - 14 hours
|
|I used to be a shy introverted nerd with good grades at university. I
|reached a low point when I started to wonder why I never had a
|girlfriend. Realized that I was boring, that my life was boring and
|that I was hiding in my comfort zone, never trying anything new.
|Started reading books on personal development, tried out new things,
|started to go to social events. I also joined my local pick-up scene
|and found some great friends who were also on a journey to learn how to
|flirt. Somehow, nobody ever taught us how flirting worked, so we just
|figured it out ourselves. Read every obscure pick-up book, forum entry
|and PDF I could find. Most of it was hot garbage, but every single one
|of them had at least one or two interesting ideas. You need an open
|mind and the willingness to accept that some of your beliefs are wrong
|and holding you back, no matter how much you think their part of your
|identity. At the same time, you need your bullshit sensors on high
|alert because there are also very toxic ideas floating around in the
|pick-up scene.
|u/AriasK - 5 hours
|
|I was 22 and working in retail. It's all I'd ever done. I dropped out
|of high school early, due to my then undiagnosed ADHD causing me to be
|completely off the rails and failing (despite being quite intelligent).
|I was putting up with shitty customers yelling at me all day and an
|asshole micro managing boss. I suddenly realized this might be the rest
|of my life. I couldn't take that. I decided I was going to university.
|I was going to do something else. I didn't care how poor I had to be in
|the interim, I was going to make it work. And I did. And now I'm a
|teacher and I love my job and my life.
|u/karmafrog1 - 3 hours
|
|Started running towards things that scared me. Started with searching
|for a dead body in the remote desert. Culminated in moving overseas.
|12 years on, I have a whole new life and I'm very happy with it.
|u/whimsicalpalette - 18 hours
|
|Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
|u/haa-tim-hen-tie - 18 hours
|
|*Meth.. I'm much happier now..*
|u/bigjimbay - 17 hours
|
|Went back to school and went back to church
|u/Sn0w7ir3 - 18 hours
|
|Luckily I haven’t and hope to never experience hitting rock bottom but
|I think that I would just have to realize that’s there’s light at the
|end of the tunnel. Shit happens, only thing we can do when it does is
|try to adapt however we can. Whether it’s joining the military or
|staying with a friend until we can get back up on our feet.
|u/heavenlyposeidon - 18 hours
|
|I was on my lowest stage in life 8 months ago, lost my job, ended a 8
|year relationship and my plans to get married was overweight and had a
|lot of shit going on. I talked to family and friends i trusted and
|they made me see things in a different way and I slowly started doing
|things. Firat was to not think too much about my problems so I started
|working out. Second found a new job and made some friends took up
|dancing (never thought about it ever) and got out of my comfort zone.
|Made peace with my situation slowly and took small steps toward where I
|wanted to be in life. 8 months later I love my job and have a few new
|people I like hamging around, lost 25kg in weight due to working put
|and eathing healty. Its the small step process that got me through it
|tbh. Look for what you want amd what you cand so to get there and take
|a few small steps toward it every week. Sooner or later you will get
|there. Much love take care off urself 🤎
|u/contraries - 17 hours
|
|I went back to school in my 50s and started focusing on myself and
|taking my personal- transformation seriously
|u/SeniSacul - 17 hours
|
|Had an accident and it kept me from going further. From there the way
|was only out of that empty hole
|u/Reasonable_Assist_63 - 17 hours
|
|Never hit quite rock bottom, but got pretty low. I had to be open and
|honest with myself. Had to make some tough decisions and it was a lot
|of hard work. Set short and long term goal. Be realistic when setting
|and evaluating those goals. I also had the support of a fantastic
|woman to help me.
|u/domunicorn - 17 hours
|
|Quitting smoking and cognitive behavior therapy. "Feeling good" by
|David Burns helped me a lot. It may be dated by now and newer books may
|be better.
|u/No-Explanation1034 - 17 hours
|
|Personal development. Decide on the kind of person you wish you were,
|and what steps can get you there. A little at a time, just do what is
|possible from where you're at today. As goals get achieved, you'll feel
|more confident and hopeful about your life and abilities. You can do
|the thing, it may just take a while and a bit of effort, but YOU CAN DO
|THE THING. Love conquers all, and starts with self. Godspeed on your
|journey op.
|u/MapOdd4135 - 17 hours
|
|1) Got on anti-depressants 2) Left my job that was stressing me out
|3) Spent a lot of time thinking about why I hit rock bottom and how I
|could avoid those factors again (exhaustion, claustrophobia, work
|stress) 4) Spent more time on a small business I'd be building -
|moving towards something I liked, and I was lucky I had a few lucky
|breaks that meant a lot in the 6 months after doing this 5) Did some
|simple holidays (camping) It's not enough to just stop/leave, I
|also had to move to something and arrive somewhere new.
|u/sdfg1563 - 17 hours
|
|I quit drinking when I was 24 went back to college when I was 26 and
|graduated at 29.
|u/PoundshopGiamatti - 17 hours
|
|I didn't completely turn my life around, but I've held on to my current
|job for almost 2 years (knock on wood - my industry is tottering right
|now and things could change at any point) and I'd say it's directly
|correlated with me stopping drinking regularly around the same time as
|I started in the role. Before that I had a six-year period where I
|made a series of poor decisions, couldn't or in some cases chose not to
|hold down a job for more than a year, and it was beginning to affect my
|employability quite gravely. I was extremely lucky to land my current
|job, which was a "magical unicorn" job that I wasn't expecting to be
|anywhere near. My unemployment insurance was maybe one or two weeks
|from running out when I got it, so I was very, very near a level of
|financial "rock bottom" that I last hit in 2006 or so.
|u/Pristine-Present-279 - 17 hours
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|I changed the course and started fresh.
|u/boobenhaus - 17 hours
|
|I was very fortunate to have a supportive partner and was able to go to
|university after I was made redundant in 2008 from a dead end job when
|our son was just 4 months old. It was a tough 4 years of being a full
|time student, full time dad (as she was working) and doing anything I
|could on evenings and weekends to earn money. It was so hard and I feel
|into a massive depression during that time, but we made it through. It
|was a decision we both made as we wanted to give our son the best life
|we could. We succeeded, and we're thriving.
|u/Petitemilf9517 - 17 hours
|
|I have never been in this situation personally, but my husband was and
|shared his experiences with it. To make a long story short, he hit rock
|bottom and ended up doing a psychedelic one time and it forever changed
|his life for the better.
|u/followthedarkrabbit - 17 hours
|
|Mix between not having a choice, and having emotional support from a
|couple amazing people I've picked up in this crazy life.
|u/leadwithlovealways - 17 hours
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|Therapy
|u/Advanced-Captain-150 - 17 hours
|
|Time, putting in work when I had the energy, letting myself rest
|without judgement, not letting short breaks turn into giving up
|forever. Most of all, taking opportunities when I found them even if it
|seemed hard or i told myself excuses not to take them
|u/Honor_my_ballsack - 17 hours
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|Therapy
|u/Maleficent_Memory606 - 17 hours
|
|I'm still on the process of making my life better. Since past years, I
|cut off all the toxic people from my life including my family members.
|hope I will see myself better place soon. it's not easy yet its better
|for my own good. wish you all the good for those people who are
|trying.
|u/dillydog6 - 17 hours
|
|Try to get rid of everything you can that hurts you from your ultimate
|goals. Even if you are scared to...
|u/jammybearff - 17 hours
|
|healthy body healthy mind, trust me start working out and you will get
|motivated in life to achieve more. Even when you are depressed and you
|do some pushups the feeling your body getting strong releases so much
|good energy.
|u/mechanicalcontrols - 16 hours
|
|Waking up in hand cuffs might have had something to do with it.
|u/tjalek - 16 hours
|
|I felt my feelings, expressed my feelings Zero alcohol, zero
|substances. Did breathwork, body connection. Journalling. I actually
|verbalised and I was writing because I realised I hadn't spoken out
|loud in awhile and it helped me reconnect to my voice. But also,
|friends. Friends have gotten me out of a deep stuckness and I owe it to
|them for helping me out. Not financial. Little advice. But actually
|being there with me in feeling and them speaking from the heart and me
|actually listening and considering their words. I know being a victim
|only goes so far so I acknowledged and sat with that but then also
|owned and accepted that it's up to me to get out of it. Owning my
|story. Owning my situation. Very humbling but also very empowering.
|u/Gloomy_Article3536 - 16 hours
|
|I found myself living in the worst area of my city ; working as a
|health care assistant on a zero hr contract at 38yrs old.. my life had
|been a roller coaster leading up to this, however things were not going
|well. I was literally tripping over drug addicts trying to leave my
|flat in the morning. I went back to University to study nursing
|(mental health) . I had already dropped out of uni when I was younger,
|so I could feel the negativity from family members etc that prob
|thought I was going on another wild goose chase. An opportunity came
|my way as a student nurse to work part time as an assistant
|practitioner , which was a big step up from care assistant; after a lot
|of hard work I graduated with distinction and now have a full time
|staff nurse position in the ward I worked as an assistant practitioner.
|I also met a partner who owns a house etc so I ended up moving in with
|my partner to the leafy suburbs away from the dump I was living in .
|I'm now saving up for a mortgage to buy a flat to rent out and thinking
|of doing a masters degree part-time . Set goals and hard work in
|every aspect of life.
|u/CoolTemperature1602 - 16 hours
|
|First i thought, I'm not weak, I'm resilient. I'm not a quitter, I'm
|just down and out. So i took inspiration from family and friends who
|had been down and made a plan to get back up on top. Took 6 years but I
|have all I want right now and I've started to fine tune other goals.
|u/Disastrous_Trash9699 - 16 hours
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|simple, i got sober
|u/CandymanTA - 16 hours
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|Self loathing and sheer, desperate effort.
|u/kungfoop - 16 hours
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|Faked it til I made it. It worked.
|u/SenSw0rd - 16 hours
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|Quit alcohol, ate right, forgave and accepted myself.
|u/Kelly_the_tailor - 16 hours
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|A secure and proper job contract, plus therapy, plus cutting out toxic
|people. And (I know this is not for everyone but it helped me) no
|meat, no alcohol, no drugs, light exercises every day, sauna, long
|walks. AND travelling, exploring foreign cultures and experience new
|stuff as often as possible.
|u/boywithtwoarms - 16 hours
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|I was full of hope and turned my life around to shit if that helps.
|maybe just do the opposite of what I did?
|u/misha_kotzky36 - 16 hours
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|ayahuasca
|u/_ThatsTicketyBoo_ - 16 hours
|
|I realised for the first time someone *actually* loved me, and that my
|drinking and killing myself was hurting them it was no longer about
|me. 9 amd a half months sober from a 15 - 20 drinking career.
|u/Old-Librarian-9347 - 16 hours
|
|To be honest I just kept barely existing day to day until one magical
|day I found someone who loved me. My only advice would be find someone
|who loves unequivocally ie best friend, boy/girlfriend even brother or
|sister who will support you, help you and most of all understand you.
|u/HatHuman4605 - 15 hours
|
|Im there right now. Slowly getting things in to order with the help of
|my parents setting tiny goals.
|u/Lintjedepintje_54 - 15 hours
|
|Day by day, step by step. You don’t turn your life around in one day.
|Get out of bed every morning, talk to a friend or relative everyday
|(even if it’s via whatsapp). Ask for help, and don’t be afraid to do
|so. Most people feel honored when someone asks them for help or advice.
|Be kind to yourself. Allow bad days to be there. Surround yourself with
|friends who support you and make you feel better. And give it time.
|Grass won’t grow faster if you pull it. Even the smallest decisions
|and tasks can contribute to turning your life around. It may sometimes
|feel like nothing is improving, but keep faith you’re doing the right
|thing. Even posting this question on Reddit, is a sign you’re taking
|action and are on the right track!
|u/clutch-204 - 15 hours
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|Got sober.
|u/blockman16 - 15 hours
|
|I never was hopeless or whatnot but every time I feel like im slumping
|and getting lazy the answer is always - work out harder / get more
|ripped - get some new outfits , go out more , work harder, date hot
|girls. Works every time.
|u/corvid-99 - 15 hours
|
|I remember what Ingmar Bergman said — “I have learnt that if I can
|master the negative forces and harness them to my chariot, they can
|work to my advantage.” I lost a chunk of my identity this past summer
|as a result of almost everything good in my life coming undone one by
|one, losing two friends to sudden deaths, and then my own stupid failed
|suicide attempt. I’m still not out of my well but I’m slowly making
|the climb - analyzing my flaws and fears then breaking them down to
|work on each one has been fortifying. It takes time, just as anything
|worthwhile does.
|u/jmnugent - 15 hours
|
|I'm in my 50's,. so I've done that several times in my life now *
|There were several times in my 20's and early 30's. when I was pretty
|depressed (borderline suicidally depressed). Eventually I just had to
|sort of "change my mindset" to declare to myself I wasn't going to let
|depression have power over me or my outcomes. Stopped drinking.
|Stopping doing time-wasting things. Started working out more. Basically
|just tried cleaning up my life and my habits and trying to "live better
|(for myself). * There was a time in my 30's when I lost my job, was
|getting unemployment, had to move out of my apartment and wound up
|sleeping on my Brothers unfinished concrete basement floor. About the
|only thing I could continue paying for at the time was my cellphone. I
|had some "on the side" IT house-call sort of work. During the day I
|babysat my Brothers new baby and washed dishes and did other things to
|earn my keep. I eventually found a night-shift job,. so I'd drive home
|from my night shift job and still stay away through the day to babysit
|baby and 2 dogs. I'd sleep from 5pm to 11pm and then get up and go to
|my nightshift job again. It was hard.. but that's how I dug myself out
|of a hole. About a year of that and I was able to move back out on my
|own again,. at which point I had 2 jobs (same nightshift job and a day-
|shift job 8-4pm).. I did that for about 2 years. until I quit the
|nightshift job and basically balanced out back to normal again. *
|Another time recently at a job for about 15 years,. and surviving
|alpha-wave covid19 (38 days in Hospital, 16 of those days in ICU on a
|Ventilator).. the job started to go downhill. We had around 40%
|employee turnover (including a lot of new managers) and the atmosphere
|and staff-support etc just all started circling the drain. I was not
|happy and started job searching. Was pretty desperate. Wasn't finding
|much and assumed I'd just have to quit and take a 50% payout to go
|stock grocery shelves or something. On a wild whim (random comment from
|my brother about how the west coast was nice and there's more job-
|unions) .. I looked around in various areas (Seattle, Portland).. and I
|got super lucky to find a job-opening that almost identically matched
|my skills (and doubled my pay). So I basically threw away 90% of my
|possessions, packed only what would fit in my car and moved cross
|country from Colorado to Portland. (around 1,300 miles) I don't know
|if there's any unifying pattern in any of those. But you're in charge
|of your own destiny. The same way you decide what shirt to wear in the
|morning. You can decide what food to buy or what bills to pay or what
|job to have or where to live. Yep, it's harder for some than others.
|Yep, I've been in places in my life before where I felt "trapped" as I
|had few options (was true in my last job -- the city I was in at the
|time had few job options,. so me moving away was strategically the best
|choice) Sometimes you get sort of "trapped in your own narrow
|blinders mindset".. and you have to start doing new things to break
|yourself out of it.
|u/Any_Animator_880 - 15 hours
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|Good for you guys. I ain't gonna crawl out again.
|u/Rinkiin - 14 hours
|
|I was at the point of breaking. I didn't have no where to go, my life
|was falling apart because of my sister's actions that got me kicked out
|of a mother living building, went to live with a former fellow student
|who turned out to be obsessed with me and awkward with my kid, so I
|went to a woman shelter. Couldn't find anywhere to live, no apartment..
|they had to ask me about my plans and then CPS was involved since I
|didn't have anywhere to go, I heard the words ____ will be removed and
|put in foster care. I immediately ran out crying from the office and
|texted an aunt who lived hours away. She helped me get back on my feet.
|The social worker that told me my kid would be removed was just back
|from a mental health crisis break and she went back there straight
|away. I changed workers and she never thought I should lose my kid for
|that, and that we will make sure I am settled before closing the case.
|I ended up having my own place, then met the love of my life randomly
|in a park, his daughter found me first asking me for a nugget and there
|we never stopped talking since then. We moved in together and we helped
|each other being the best versions of ourselves. We have moved
|thousands of miles away to a new location and bought our new house, got
|a car, had two kids together and our lives are going very well. We cut
|some people out of our lives and we feel better than ever. Including
|that aunt that used my case to make herself seem like a good person but
|shaming me and judging me, shaming my decisions of trying to get better
|things for my daughter and I, such as moving out the apartment she
|found for me when it was full of mold and made my daughter sick, her
|reputation toward those friends was more important than my daughter..
|so yeah.. I am grateful for her help the time it lasted and I knew when
|to cut her out. (Had some people using me before and I'm not doing that
|again) When everything goes wrong you can always figure it out and
|shine.
|u/Tigeraqua8 - 14 hours
|
|Was in an abusive marriage for 20 years. I was rock bottom with
|insecurity and apathy. Finally got screamed at once too often and
|realised he didn’t care about me let alone love me. I escaped when he
|went away for a week and have never looked back. I’m Australian
|Firstly. Have your own bank account. Save as much as you can for as
|long as you can. Secondly. When you can- get the fuck out!! There are
|people who can help you. Try Lifeline or Salvation Army. I wish you
|every success in your life. Strive to be happy.
|u/Badgersthought - 14 hours
|
|One day at a time. That’s the only way. Focus on short term goals and
|eventually things will start getting better.
|u/Massive_Meat_6948 - 14 hours
|
|Stopped using drugs and alcohol. My life is 1000x more full than it
|ever was. Sometimes I miss the fun I used to have drinking and being
|wild. But whenever I drink it leads me to drugs and drugs lead me to a
|dark place. 6 years sober next month looking for a house with my
|beautiful girlfriend something I never dreamed I would ever have when I
|was a homeless drug addict
|u/JustLoveEm - 14 hours
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|I did not. I am still struggling. What keeps me going is the progress I
|see.
|u/knight_vegi - 14 hours
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|My country finally started living WITH covid, not hiding from it. Never
|been as hopeless as i was 2020-2022
|u/dreamingforward - 14 hours
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|Find the path for Earth. You might start here:
|http://github.com/LeFreq/JusticeLeage.
|u/Scared_Tourist_6243 - 14 hours
|
|The expression: Better to do it badly than not to do it at all. When I
|was deeply depressed, brushing my teeth was too much, but I could rub
|the brush over my teeth for a few seconds or gargle Mouthwash. It's
|better than nothing, and usually when I got started on something then I
|could finish, or at least accomplish more than ehat I thought. And the
|more "impossible" things I accomplished, the easier it became. Also,
|showing yourself compassion, but that takes a lot of time to learn.
|u/Guilty-Platypus1745 - 14 hours
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|one day at a time
|u/GeorgeStinksLol - 14 hours
|
|I was burning stuff in one of those metal garden incinerators, then
|just kinda lost it and kicked the shit out of it while screaming and
|shouting at the top of my lungs, then I just felt better… I don’t think
|I had a normal experience but it was my experience.
|u/melson8r - 14 hours
|
|Once I realised that my goals were the problem and belief in myself was
|the problem, I took a few stabs in the dark and applied for a few
|higher end jobs that more suit what I want to do and now I’m a
|marketplace coordinator and graphic designer (from working in bars and
|a brief stint in Costa). I went from miserable and had no motivation
|and it’s completely turned my life around.
|u/helloryan - 14 hours
|
|I had mounting student loans and could not find work beyond minimum
|wage jobs. So I studied for the GMAT in between calls while working in
|a call center. Went back to school and put in the effort to network and
|get good grades. It eventually let to an internship which led to a
|decent job. Still paying those student loans, but I've paid off over
|$100k and feel a lot better about life. It helped me to remain
|optimistic, thinking that no one is going to pull me out of the slump
|besides myself. And then just being positive around colleagues --
|people want to work with/hang out with people they like.
|u/Any_Jump8102 - 13 hours
|
| First and most important for me, I had to stop thinking about trying
|harder to compensate for earlier lost years, because it only made me
|fail more. Some cliche advice that worked for me: 1. SLEEP. I cannot
|stress this enough. Try to eliminate anything that keeps you awake at
|night. Lack of sleep is followed by physical and mental fatigue. 2.
|FOOD. Reduce sugar intake. Try to find a balanced diet, and cook your
|meals. Step 1. is necessary first if you catch yourself eating large
|amounts of junk food. Sleep can mess with your feelings of hunger. 3.
|BABY STEPS. Take it slow, almost no one turned their life and became
|"successful" overnight. If you put more pressure on yourself than
|needed, chances are that you will not succeed. Thank you for
|reading this, I wish for everyone to find their hopes in life. Good
|luck.
|u/deeo-gratiaa - 13 hours
|
|It wasnt me but the doctors and antibiotics. Several other doctors
|claimed there was nothing wrong with me and I was a "psychosomatic
|case" or that I made all the excrutiating pain and other issues up. The
|pain has literally been destroying my life. Turns out, I have been
|having a neuroinfection for at least two years. Among those
|"specialists" that thought I was a psych case, without any previous
|records of psych issues, or that I just didnt want to go to work were
|neurologists and infectologists... When I asked whether there was a
|chance i had been suffering from an infection, I was reminded HE is the
|doctor and I had the honour of being his first patient to have been
|reffered to a psychologist with "imaginary pain diagnose"... I know I
|am diverging here but I just need to vent all the anger and depression
|out. Be reminded that doctors can be blinded by pride and pricks like
|all the ordinary people. What stung me most was the lack of compasion
|and zero interest in an actual diagnosis process. It was like if there
|is no visible issue there is no real issue, no reason for tests, no
|reason to believe the suffering was real.
|u/lazarus870 - 13 hours
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|I quit a job that was going to kill me with stress. But now I was
|unemployed. People will say it's easier to get a job when you have a
|job, and it's true. I was applying for jobs but wasn't getting any
|calls back. And the times I **did** get an interview, they were turned
|off that I was unemployed. I was super depressed, and anxious. One
|night I was lying in bed, unable to sleep from anxiety and from the
|heat, and I decided to pass the time I was going to buy one lotto
|ticket a week, and just see how it goes. Suddenly I had 7 numbers come
|to my head, and I wrote them down on a Word document. Then I finally
|fell asleep. When I woke up, I saw the numbers and thought, what the
|hell, why not? I made an online lotto account and inputted my numbers.
|Week 1 I got an e-mail that I won a prize. So I checked my account,
|and it said I won a free ticket. Okay fine, better than nothing. Week
|2, I got an e-mail that I won a prize. I checked it again, expecting a
|free ticket. So I checked my account and my balance has a big number
|on it, and I thought was a 5-figure prize. I was stunned, since I just
|woke up. Then I cleared my eyes, and saw that the number had a comma
|in it. 6 figure cash prize. I called on Saturday and claimed it, and
|by the following Wednesday I had more money than I'd ever seen in my
|life. Did I earn it and pull myself up by the bootstraps? No. But I
|used it to pull myself out of a horrible situation. And I got really
|bold with my job interviews, because now I was't desperate. And I
|landed a job. And the money put a huge down payment on a home and has
|been invested in the stock market to give me a ton of breathing room in
|life.
|u/Mawnalisa - 13 hours
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|Family , friends and myself. Just remember what you need everyday.
|Think of that and have faith that you will be ok.
|u/shinigamiez - 13 hours
|
|Having a purpose helps a lot. I set long term goals and I'm working
|hard to achieve them.
|u/Striking-Nobody7383 - 13 hours
|
|Hi this is literally my 1st time on any of this so probably not doing
|it right but here I go I have always had a issue with my mental health
|But some how found the love of my life we had started to make a
|beautiful life together or so I thought. We have a beautiful baby and
|I had kids when we met. She loves all the kids as her own and I love
|that about her I couldn't fault her. But I am trying to get some time
|with 2 of my kids who my ex stopped me seeing because of me having a
|new partner. Taking her to court has caused my mental health to take a
|massive dive. My wife/partner and some friend/family tried to point
|this out but I being the dumb ass I am didn't listen well i sort of
|tried but not hard enough. I have been fighting with my own head for so
|long and its caused me to be snappy and I kept having a go at my oldest
|2 kids when I have them. My partner/love of my life/wife has left me
|because of it but is still helping me through it I dont deserve her. I
|am trying my hardest to get the help I need for myself my kids and her
|also for my God. I have started meds and am booked in to get help I
|dont know what I'm posting this for other than to say if you find love
|don't lose it and if your mental health is bad get help your love 1s
|see what you can't. Don't be like me and lose you love your friends and
|family. I lost to much don't be like me. Much love people head up and
|get the help you need.
|u/ghotiermann - 13 hours
|
|I was suffering from severe depression. I was hiding in my apartment,
|only going out late at night to get groceries from Walmart. While I
|never actually attempted suicide, I had the method ready to go and had
|the note written. Instead, at the last minute, I decided to get help
|from the VA (I am a veteran, and my then undiagnosed depression turns
|out to have been service related). It took me months to actually see
|a doctor, but just making that decision gave me a new start. That was
|almost 20 years ago. I am still in therapy and taking anti-depressants
|(I probably will be for the rest of my life), but I am actually happy
|now.
|u/Familiar-Muscle-9168 - 13 hours
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|Still pretty hopeless but I've felt some aspects of my life turn
|around. I've cut down on phone usage, focused on eating more fruits
|and veggies, and upped my ADHD/depression medication. I've lost
|weight(I'm at risk for health conditions), and as a college student,
|I'm not failing any of my classes. I'm also a lot more outspoken which
|has helped me a ton this semester.
|u/threepointforteen - 13 hours
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|Asking for help. It's incredible how much people will go out of their
|way to get you places if you just ask and be vocal about what you're
|going through. Being authentic and real has never failed me.
|u/curtiss_mac - 13 hours
|
|Removed people who were holding me back. Just so happened to be
|everyone I thought was a friend.
|u/MushroomBright8626 - 13 hours
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|Therapy. Embracing good people who love me for who I am. Time.
|u/RuthlesslySmashed - 13 hours
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|Got off alcohol. Mostly everything else fell into place after that.
|u/zaraaaawan - 13 hours
|
|Time, I realised that getting better and getting my life sorted wasn’t
|going to happen overnight, and it wouldn’t be consistent either. I had
|my bad days and good but the only thing that mattered was the ratio
|between them because healing isn’t something you just DO, it’s rather
|an effort to be 1% better today than you were yesterday, and over time
|I realised that “Wow i’ve come quite far!” even though I didn’t feel it
|when starting to come out of the hopelessness, it’s like climbing a
|really steep mountain without looking down once, and when you do - you
|see that massive distance between you and the ground. Nobody is “fully
|healed”, for example, everything you see on social media with all these
|wellness influencers are little snapshots of only the good moments in
|their lives, and it may seem hard to believe but behind closed doors,
|even they are going through their own personal struggles. So stop
|comparing! and stop beating yourself up over one bad moment, remember
|it’s just a bad day, not a bad life.
|u/adoboammo - 12 hours
|
|Joined the Air Force. Got out of my small town in the middle of nowhere
|with no job prospects outside construction, now have very good job
|security, a bachelor's and working on my masters degree without paying
|a cent and without even touching my GI bill that I'll probably pass on
|to my kids.
|u/No_Name_Canadian - 12 hours
|
|Hit rock bottom, go to rehab and spend 90 days talking to therapists,
|and get diagnosed ADHD. Realize nobody is coming to save you, you have
|to save yourself, you have to want to save yourself, and you need to
|believe that you deserve to be saved. And amphetamine, that definitely
|helps.
|u/Jesse_Livermore - 12 hours
|
|Felt hopeless after graduating high school, and trying to make it on my
|own, but failed miserably. Decided to turn my life around and went to
|college. Hit rock bottom again in college due to loneliness inherit in
|college... but kept going through the muck. Emerged into a
|depressing job in the industry I wanted, had multiple existential
|crises that "this was what life was all about?!" Kept going through
|the muck. Emerged into a new industry I would never have expected to
|be in that was awesome and interesting and enabled me to use my learned
|skills tangentially. Got happy but also worked for an absolute psycho
|lady. Job got easy and 1-dimensional. Had existential crises again.
|Kept going through the muck. Eventually had a kid and realized a job
|isn't who you are at all. Eventually saved enough money to quit during
|COVID. More or less retired now. Wouldn't mind working at recent
|industry again but no way would I ever go back to working for psycho
|people, which that industry has a few of. Pretty much though the
|constant thing that got me through the muck was working out (jogging,
|cycling, weights, etc) and occasionally going to church (liberal
|church) and listening to bible podcasts. Literally every feeling
|you've ever felt, the history of mankind is made up of thousands if not
|millions of others who felt the exact same thing and they successfully
|made it through the muck. Whether it's a belief in sunnier days to come
|or religion or bettering oneself, these things get you through it.
|u/South-Juggernaut-451 - 12 hours
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|Changed the people around me.
|u/superRad7 - 12 hours
|
|Real bad addiction. Rock bottom. Moved back home (NY-CO) and just went
|on long ten mile walks everyday till I didn’t crave drugs anymore.
|Started doing hobbies like climbing & yoga to better my health.
|Eventually saved enough for a down payment on a house. 45 in good
|shape. Have two kids, a wife, and house. couldn’t be happier. Just
|gotta remove yourself from the bad habits/situations.
|u/displayb333 - 12 hours
|
|Medication enabled all the other positive efforts I was making
|u/haushinkadaz - 12 hours
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|Sought therapy and started being honest to people, telling them how I
|felt and where I struggled. Things got surprisingly easier much quicker
|than I could’ve expected. Honesty was the best bit. Rather than keeping
|things to myself, learned the value in just being straight on how I
|feel and the massive weight it lifts.
|u/sailor-9 - 12 hours
|
|One day I realised that it's only a dollar profit I need to make off
|every individual to be at a better place. Focused on one common need
|that every individual has and started off small as glass ware
|manufacturer.
|u/boringlesbian - 12 hours
|
|After getting out of the mental hospital, being homeless, working as a
|home health aide for a quadriplegic woman while living out of my truck,
|getting on SSI, doing a decade + of hard therapy, getting my heart
|broken, getting a couple of Associates degrees, getting a good job,
|getting married, buying a house, getting a better job…here I am. All
|I know is that I just kept going. I figured since I was alive, I might
|as well try to make the best of it. I’ve never been an optimist or
|hopeful about the future. I just know that right now, I’m here, and I’m
|going to do what I can to not make mine or anyone else’s existence
|harder than it already is.
|u/Far-Ad5796 - 12 hours
|
|I was having active suicide ideation. I started therapy, which I had
|done before with mixed success, but this therapist helped in multiple
|ways, including, but not limited to: getting me on medication, helping
|me find a medication that worked for me (lucky me all the “go to”
|depression and anxiety meds either made me worse or had horrendous side
|efffects, and the one that is usually not offered early in the process
|because more people tend to have a bad reaction is the one that worked
|for me. Yaaaay body chemistry), helping me realize how fucked up and
|traumatizing a particular period of my life had been (you know, that
|fun moment when you’re telling what you think is a hilarious anecdote
|and you realize the other party is horrified), helping me reframe what
|i should consider normal behavior from others, and finally and most
|significantly helping me realize that my career/business required me to
|behave in a way (and tolerate behavior from others) that ran so
|completely contrary to my internal self, and that that was what was
|slowly driving me to despair and killing me. Additional important
|factors: I had another career path to fall back on, I’d just kinda …
|forgotten about it. I had an extremely supportive spouse, who never
|questioned my need for therapy nor for when I told him I was walking
|away from the business I’d spent a decade building. I had a young
|child, and while past-partum hormones certainly didn’t help, those
|moments I came terrifyingly close to letting my car drift off the road
|into a tree, his sweet face would pop into my head and I would resist
|the urge. It’s been 12 years. I’m still on medication but that’s just
|fine. To me it’s no different than being diabetic. Some things you just
|need to stay alive. I’ve had a few rocky days and times, but I have so
|many more tools to manage them. I’m thankful.
|u/allthetinysquiggles - 12 hours
|
|To be completely honest, I allowed (and still do) offing myself to be
|an option after I'd given it one truly genuine try at improving my
|life. Worst case, then I hadn't really lost anything from where I was
|at (rock bottom), and I wouldn't feel guilty anymore about giving up.
|Best case, maybe it would actually work and I'd improve things enough
|to want to keep living this stupid fucking life. It started with
|getting sober and staying sober, and I took things one day at a time
|from there. I think I would say that to someone on the outside, it
|probably does look like I've completely turned things around. And I
|guess I have a bit. Been sober a year now, lost 50lbs, bought my first
|house, about to be promoted. But what it's like in my head....that's
|not so simple. I think one of the biggest challenges with "completely
|turning your life around" is that you may need to accept that the turn
|may not be quiiiiite as complete as you envision/hope. You're still
|you. The struggles and challenges that led you to feel like you need to
|turn your life around don't magically disappear, and some wounds heal
|with permanent scars instead of cleanly. For myself, I will always
|allow the option of giving up to be on the table. It's what helps me
|hang on when things in my head get darker than baseline. There *is*
|going to be a light at at least one end of this tunnel. I'll genuinely
|do my best to try and make sure there's a light at the other end too
|though, and the goal is to want to move towards that one more than the
|other one. Sometimes that means taking life second by second and
|minute by minute. Sometimes that looks like driving out to the middle
|of an empty dark parking lot and screaming because I want a drink so
|goddamn badly and I know I can't have one. Sometimes it's forcing
|myself to go out and socialize with other human beings even though I'm
|a socially (and generally) anxious mess most of the time. Basically,
|I think part of the key to it is accepting not just that nothing is
|perfect, but also that this "journey" (hate describing things like
|that) can really fucking suck; it's okay to be resentful of it while
|appreciating the improvements. One day at a time man, it doesn't happen
|overnight. TL;DR: Got sober, decided to actually whole-ass life
|instead of half-ass it, just to see what would happen. I'm still a
|salty bitch on the inside, but life is a thousand times better. One day
|at a time.
|u/spidermanngp - 12 hours
|
|Therapy, sobriety, prescription medication, and time. Now, life is
|great. Never thought I'd be this happy in my adult life.
|u/Trixie1143 - 11 hours
|
|Outpatient program, AA, therapy
|u/SteadfastEnd - 11 hours
|
|I got involved in prison ministry and realized that, no matter how bad
|my life was, the worst day of life in freedom is still usually a lot
|better than the best day behind bars.
|u/Aggressive_Bat2489 - 11 hours
|
|Quitting drinking alcohol, paid attention to how my emotions and
|psychological state changed as every day went by (and still does, just
|for today). I still have a sense of doom lol but it’s not soooooo bad
|as before.
|u/ibedemfeels - 11 hours
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|Quit drugs and alcohol.
|u/IronDominion - 11 hours
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|I finally went to a doctor, got medication for my chronic fatigue,
|hired a crew to clean out my depression den of an apartment, and
|thousands of dollars in ketamine therapy. It’s not perfect, but a hell
|of a lot better
|u/splattykitty - 11 hours
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|My bestie brought me to a church event I didn't think would be great.
|It turned out to be amazing and I decided to get my crap straight. That
|was one year ago, never felt happier than I do rn
|u/rosie-skies - 11 hours
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|Going to therapy. I thought I was functioning perfectly fine despite
|years of trauma, but no. I was not doing well.
|u/debbielew - 11 hours
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|Medication
|u/Gym-Demon - 11 hours
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|I realized I had nothing left to lose and I fought like hell every
|single day. Rock bottom was the solid foundation that I built a life
|beyond my wildest dreams on!
|u/sheerduckinghubris - 10 hours
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|took a chance at university after 6 years of unemployment and being
|denied for every job interview i ever went to, i somehow got an
|unconditional offer, on the bus ride home i was so stunned i thought to
|myself "how the f\*\*k did i do that?". afterwards i worked hard and
|grinded until i got my bachelor's degree, a few months later i got my
|first official pad job as a covid test assistant during the pandemic
|u/Wannabegooddad - 10 hours
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|I quit drinking. Everything changed since then
|u/nextinfob12b12 - 10 hours
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|Be patient with yourself. If you’re hopeless today you probably won’t
|be sooooo so optimistic tomorrow. Accept that small steps will make a
|difference over time. Start by taking out the garbage or being nice to
|someone.
|u/Cultural_Bison_6306 - 10 hours
|
|I took an extremely large dose of mushrooms (~7g) and the experience
|burned the need to improve my life so thoroughly into my consciousness
|that for months afterward it was impossible to ignore. I quit smoking
|and drinking and partying my life away the next day. I lost 100lbs over
|the next year. I got a better job and started building towards a future
|rather than merely waiting for the end. I don't recommend it for
|everyone, but it certainly worked for me.
|u/Rainb0wHerb - 10 hours
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|There’s a lot I want to say but I don’t think it’s enough to say it
|here because you will get confused 😕
|u/jihiggs123 - 10 hours
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|therapy and copious amounts of marijuana when things got too
|overwhelming.
|u/InfillDeveloper748 - 10 hours
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|Hard work. Honestly start with healthy whole foods and exercise. Goes a
|long way! 1 day at a time. Find hobbies that make you happy.
|u/FastEd66 - 9 hours
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|Quit doing drugs and applied to every outdoor job I could find.
|u/jlaux - 9 hours
|
|I somehow found a voice within myself that said that I just want to
|find happiness within my life, and that I needed help. I sought a
|therapist, and it started from there.
|u/MagicManicPanic - 9 hours
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|Antipsychotics were life changing. I felt like I was born again.
|u/smokeehayes - 9 hours
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|I started making decisions based on my needs and desires, rather than
|trying to anticipate the "correct" response that was expected of me.
|I'm not as "likable" as I used to be, but I like myself a whole hell of
|a lot more now.
|u/willworkforjokes - 9 hours
|
|1. I was abused when I was a boy starting when I was 10 until I was 17.
|2. I separated from my parents, they did not know my address or my
|phone number. 3. I was violently raped a month after my 21st birthday
|by someone I knew. 4. A couple of months after that I found out my
|rapist had AIDS. 5. Back then you could not do an instant AIDS test,
|you had to wait six months after exposure. 6. I drank myself to a
|stupor and I attempted suicide several times. 7. I met a girl who also
|thought she might have AIDS. She was getting herself healthy and doing
|everything she could to make sure she would be remembered. I followed
|her lead. 8. We went and got tested the same week and we both tested
|negative. 9. We had sex that very night, it was my first time. 10. I
|lost myself in her. 11. 4 years later she made me leave her. 12. I
|reverted back to drinking. 13. I lost my job and became homeless. 14. A
|person I had had a few classes with in college refused to let me be
|homeless. I started sleeping in his recliner in his living room. 15. I
|got a job about 90 miles away. 16. I went back intending to kill my
|rapist and found him in the end stages of AIDS. I didn't kill him. He
|died a couple of months later of pneumonia. 17. I met a nice lady and
|we got pregnant and married and had 4 kids. Our thirtieth wedding
|anniversary is in a couple of months. So step 6 was rock bottom and I
|was saved by someone else. Step 13 was rock bottom and I was saved by
|someone else. Step 16 was rock bottom and I was saved by someone else.
|u/grisalle - 9 hours
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|One foot in front of the other. Baby steps and hopefully some kind of
|support. You can do it just be patient with yourself.
|u/GorgeousW1fe - 9 hours
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|It started with accepting that change wouldn't be instant.
|u/TheMafia09 - 9 hours
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|Sat alone. Put my phone aside. Stared at the wall.
|u/Catbutt247365 - 8 hours
|
|Had a nervous breakdown in the 90s from work stress and PPD. Took a
|month off work, got antidepressants and anxiolytics, and slept for a
|week straight. Husband got me to join his gym, and it was a big help.
|Returned to work part time, got fit, and recovered. But like with
|other diseases, depression and anxiety can recur easily. I’ve been on
|top of it for the most part since the 2000s.
|u/Wolf6907 - 8 hours
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|Stopped letting people bring me down. I adopted the “fuck you, now I’m
|gonna prove you wrong” mentality
|u/Low_Conversation58 - 8 hours
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|I got medicated for my mental illness
|u/BeautifuIMuse - 8 hours
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|It's all about taking small steps and being kind to yourself.
|u/Less_Campaign_6956 - 8 hours
|
|My surprise adult ADHD diagnosis by my neurologist was life changing.
|Suffered from treatment resistant depression many years. The ADHD meds
|are still THE ONLY things that help me function and get stuff done. I
|don't think I would have lived thru my dreadful life experiences of a
|few years ago had I not had them for mental relief from the anguish.
|u/HoldOn_Tight - 7 hours
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|Rid myself of my toxic "friends." Got myself into counseling to fix my
|own toxic crap and learn how to put healthy boundaries in place. I
|learned how to at least accept myself for who I am, not for what others
|thought. Focused solely on myself, my family, and working, which left
|no time for drama. Currently working on quitting cigarettes.
|u/Meanolemommy - 7 hours
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|Got ten lousy jobs in the recession
|u/Terpsichorean_Wombat - 7 hours
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|Therapy and pursuing the right medication. Everyone has a different
|situation, but for me, getting on the right medication for my anxiety
|was life-changing. So was my amazing EMDR therapist.
|u/kittenofd00m - 7 hours
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|Do what?
|u/314159265358979326 - 7 hours
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|Time was probably the biggest factor. A little progress over a long
|period of time is quite the change.
|u/Boring-Lake-9227 - 6 hours
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|Testosterone hormone replacement therapy. I’m transgender. Gave me the
|confidence to turn everything around
|u/shecallsmeherangel - 6 hours
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|I had to seek help. I know therapy doesn't work for everyone, but it
|helped me. I got on medication for my bipolar, I cut toxic people out
|of my life, I gleet to trauma therapy to help with my PTSD. I am not
|the same person I was 4 years ago and I've never been happier.
|u/Admirable_Excuse_818 - 6 hours
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|Introspection, whether it's therapy, gym time, study time, school time
|or meditation, radical honesty and change comes from within, not from
|external factors. Feeling hopeless in such a large world is normal and
|is nothing new under the sun, it's a shared lived experience. There
|are many factors we cannot control, none of us got character select
|screens. 'You are not your body' You are, however, able to select your
|character every day through habit, actions and ascetic mindful
|discipline. It took a long time, but I approached my life like a
|strategic video game, a planned out painting or drawing I wanted to
|make long term, and focused on that. Rather than attain perfection, I
|focused on technique, consistency and critical thinking. 'The
|unexamined life is not worth living' Every time something went wrong
|in my life and I felt hopeless and like nothing would get better, I
|reversed engineered my meat prison and figured out how to attain
|instant moksha, well if I can exit anytime then what should I do?
|'Serve others so that others may live' If life is suffering, try to
|figure out how to spend your life reducing suffering whenever and
|wherever possible while waiting patiently to die. Chop wood, carry
|water, clean your spaces, fight hatred with love and compassion.
|u/cwfx11 - 6 hours
|
|I changed my environment for a week. I was lucky enough to be able to
|leave the country to my sister’s place, however that change of
|environment was my first step into changing myself, within that week I
|removed all toxic people from my life then deactivated my social
|medias. These steps did a number of helpful things and when I returned
|home I worked in small steps, trying to reset my thoughts and so on,
|but that change of environment was my first step of being fed up with
|always being unhappy.
|u/haowei_chien - 5 hours
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|Give yourself time.
|u/sugar0coated - 5 hours
|
|So I'm kind of back in a bad place, but I've managed to pull myself up
|before. Every time my life has gone to shit, I've tried to make small
|self improvements to kick-start big changes. I got a job, got my
|driver's licence, went on a diet, dumped my cheating and abusive
|fiance, went to the doctor for mental health support. Sold stuff. I
|went to uni last time, and I tried dating. In the past it's been okay
|eventually. I even got through agoraphobia by forcing myself into
|uncomfortable situations and panic attacks to raise my tolerance. I'm
|still not "normal" but I have expanded my comfort zone and developed
|coping mechanisms. In about 6 months I have to move 3 hours from home,
|and let my boyfriend become my provider. I'm going to be a housewife,
|the one thing I desperately didn't want for my life. But my degree is
|useless right now (concept art), and I've been looking for any entry-
|level/minimum wage job at all for 6 months and not found a damn thing.
|2 interviews, no offers. My only use until I can figure out a way to
|raise my value as a productive member of society, is to serve and
|support my partner. I hate this for me, but I am proud of how well he's
|doing, and grateful he is willing to look after me. He needs to move to
|get a huge promotion and job security for 3 years. We'd be stupid to
|pass this up. It comes at a time where my parents are struggling too,
|and have given me the same amount of time to leave. So no choice. With
|the looming dagger of debt and depression over my head, I'm mostly
|focused on trying to keep the suicidal thoughts at bay while I keep
|trying to find work to at least clear the debt before I move. I can't
|afford to spend any money to do this, so I can't socialise, can't
|comfort-shop, can't buy courses, interview clothes, or join a gym or
|club. I have no power to make decisions for my own life. Haven't been
|able to see friends in so long that I'm not sure if we're friends
|anymore. I'm low on tools, and I'm scared for the future. But I've got
|no other choice than to just keep trying things and hoping something
|jump-starts change.
|u/KingCrabcakes - 5 hours
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|Disconnected from my awful family, ended a bad marriage, remarried, had
|a kid, ended a bad career, went back to school, got a better career,
|moved to a better place, and bought a house. Took me 7 years.
|u/WarningLevel6667 - 4 hours
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|Honestly going through it still im gona need to save this and take some
|of the advice —also a reminder to those who haven’t had it figured out
|yet, know that you aren’t alone.
|u/SetLeather9353 - 4 hours
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|Never felt hopeless, as I had the hope I would die. However what
|turned me around was my own self reflection that I could not move
|forward without stopping the negative stuff I was doing.
|u/FrostySundae2561 - 3 hours
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|Found more hobbies. Started playing keyboard 4 months ago and I’ve
|played that thing every day since I got it. 10/10 would recommend to
|anybody
|u/icewolf750 - 3 hours
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|I stopped lighting myself on fire to keep other people warm.
|u/burgundybluze - 3 hours
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|Forced myself to take care of myself and go through the motions even if
|i really really don’t want to. stopped giving into cravings such as
|scrolling, eating, moping around. exercise, work, health, and learning
|something new
|u/Any_Chipmunk_6268 - 2 hours
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|I stopped wasting my energy on trying to make others happy. Now, I’ve
|started to focus only on myself. That’s what I’ve learned: don’t lose
|yourself for others. Sometimes, you need to be a little selfish to
|take care of yourself.
|u/pindarico - 2 hours
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|It starts with acceptance and transform it into hustle with kindness
|and focus
|u/you__wish - 2 hours
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|Still trying to turn it around and I have a good feeling that I can no
|matter whatever is going to hit me, I'm gonna break it and pave my way
|through it😀
|u/Z-Ruler - 1 hour
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|The first thing I do is lower my expectations of everything. Don't
|expect things to go your way so that when it does, you're happy but
|when it doesn't, it's fine
|u/GracePetalsx - 1 hour
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|actually I did have hard time to do it but someone gives an advice to
|me that i should focused on small steps each day and gradually built a
|better mindset and routine..
|u/First_Perspective25 - 1 hour
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|My son has changed my life. he always give me strength to live. When I
|look at him I become more encourage to live life.
|u/VnotV - 35 minutes
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|Whenever I'm hurting, physically or mentally, I tell myself that 100
|years from now, none of 'this' is going to matter. I'll be dead,
|you'll be dead, and so our beef or our brotherhood is ultimately
|unavailing beyond what they mean to us, here and now. Pain is just
|noise: my bad leg, my guilt, my loneliness, my bad mind and addictions;
|all once-spinning gears now stripped of their teeth - sometimes it is
|so bad that I must tend to them, but usually I can ignore the noise or
|at least tolerate it. It's something we all hear, that chorus of pain
|and fear is the song of life, and it is one that just gets louder and
|louder until death ends all mysteries. Nobody likes this fucking song,
|but it's what DJ is spinning so I'm gonna get out there and dance. I
|hope see you out there.
|u/Emergency-Twist7136 - 1 minute
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|One step at a time. Figure out the must critical problems right now.
|Usually starting by drinking some water helps.
|u/MutinybyMuses - 17 hours
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|I had the worst heartbreak of my life last week because of not me, but
|my situation. Jordan Peterson said that the worst hell is the one you
|willingly walk towards knowing you could change at any time. That
|**extreme** emotional pain, nightmares, panic attacks, poor sleep, and
|endless tears, is the greatest motivator I have ever felt. I have spent
|countless hours journaling, researching, planning and taking actions
|for a completely different me.
|u/Magenta-Magica - 18 hours
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|I wouldn’t say turned around but I got an apartment and that’s > to me
|I left my abusive ex and he found me a couple of times but I don’t
|starve (I had friends who helped me on bad days), I’m ok (I guess not
|really but yh) and have a lot of nice friends now. That’s good enough
|for me.
|u/Fl1p1 - 17 hours
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|Met my future husband.
|u/I_hate_that_im_here - 15 hours
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|Short answer: I bought used books on web design, and taught Myself that
|skill. That got me off the streets. Then, while working web design
|and marketing positions, I worked just as hard on my band and got it
|very popular, so I could eventually quit the marketing jobs, and just
|do the band.
|u/PutYourSoulInTheAirQ - 14 hours
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|Jesus and His Holy Spirit
|u/PreferenceLeading917 - 10 hours
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|Finding Jesus Christ <3
|u/lseeitaII - 8 hours
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|I take no credit… I simply surrendered… it’s God’s will over mine… His
|will be done, not mine… I decrease that He may increase… He is carrying
|me while walking on the sand and the foot prints are not mine… to God
|be the glory, praise and honor… Amen!
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